I went out with a guy for just over two years and we broke up properly about seven months ago and since then was in a three month relationship but recently I seen him again as his dad died and I went to the funeral along with my family. After the funeral I discovered he had a new girlfriend with which I am completely fine with however I also discovered that I still had really strong feelings for him. He spent the whole time sitting with myself and my family and didn't mention anything about his girlfriend. We have been in contact by text since and happen to be getting on very well... Should I tell him how I feel?

No let him deal with his fathers death. Don't force your issues on him! Just be there for him at this very important time.

Hm. no. he's living his own life... and you should be as well.

Are you unhappy with your current relationship?

Ok I know tat and I don't generally think I'm forcing my issues on him as from what I gather from his messages he still has feelings too... I'm not in a relationship at the moment I was saying since myself and himself have broken up I was in a three month relationship...

OH! That makes more sense. Honestly, I think that you should leave him be. He has a girlfriend now, his own life, etc. Coming back into the picture will only wreck his relationship with his current girlfriend; not to mention, you guys broke up for a reason... right? Is that reason fixed? Because, getting back together won't fix any problems you two previously had. It'll just resurface in a uglier/bigger form.

I know but he kind of said to me the other day that he was in a relationship for the sake of being in one and was complementing me. Also I had no contact with him whatsoever till he emailed me 3 weeks ago before his dad died. It was like a general email to all but then I discovered that I was he only one he sent it to... Something inside me is just telling me to tell him...

OK. Obviously you're going to do what you feel is right no matter what people say. But before you do so, at least weigh out the options.

You tell him... then what? He ends things with his current girl and you two get back together... then what? You didn't answer any of my questions such as... the reason you two broke up in the first place. Perhaps you tell him and then he... still keeps his girl but still talks to you?

Oh we broke up basically cause we spent too much time together and for no other reason really.. It was the hardest thing we both ever did and we admitted that to each other the other day... At the time if I was at leas five years older I would have settled and married hime. He looked after me so well and never ever hurt me, sometimes he wanted a little too much of me in a sense he wanted to see me everyday however I wouldn say this is one of the biggest flaws a relationship can have. If he told me he wanted to stay with his girl that would be OK, I would cut off contact though.

Fix the problem, before returning to being a couple. As they said, getting back together doesn't fix it.

He could have feelings for you, I feel you should tell him. There's no sense in hiding it from him, but take things slow. Losing a family member is hard... And having mixed up feelings about your ex and having to break up with your girlfriend all around the same time... Be there for him, let him know you can be counted on. But don't pressure him.

I would in no way pressure him at all... but do you really feel I should tell him and how??

So what do you guys think

Yes, I do. But tell him its OK if the feeling isn't mutual.

OK so we've basically been talking in text recently so do you think I should tell him to his face or what?? And can you think of a way I can make it a little bit special n nice

Its always best to say something like that face to face. Ask him to go for a walk with you?

OK ill ask him tomorrow, ill let you know tomorrow if I can find you on this only new... thank you