Hey well here we go I am 19yro from miami,fl I've been dating my ex for about 4yrs now he's 28yrs now yes much older then me but we've been together for a long time now and well I love him a lot and seriously I feel like I'm always putting myself out there for him but I don't get the same in return yes he calls me and makes sure I'm okay but mostly on weekends when he's free through out the week supposably he has too much to do, I honestly feel like I need to become more unavailable and see how he reacts we're not together right now just because we have a lot of issues we need to work on and we are both talking to other people but we still tend to attract each other and miss each other at least for me it works that ways but I want to feel wanted again I'm just so confused and I'm always thinking he's doing something bad I just don't know :confused: what should I do?

He either wants you or he doesn't and from what I've read id go for the latter. Don't play games with him hoping to gain his affection, it won't work like that. Have it out with him, let him know exactly how you feel if he chooses to do something about it fine if not his loss right?

Yes, you are too available and he doesn't really respect you. After 4 years the relationship should be much more serious. Start pulling away and see how he responds.

I won't discuss how I feel about the whole age difference and how old they were when the first started dating, but at 28 he would normally be thinking settling down as you should be wanting to spread your wings, it seems the roles are reversed. So disconnect yourself from him and start living your life the way you want to

we have a lot of issues we need to work on
So why aren't you working on them????

and we are both talking to other people but we still tend to attract each other
After 4 years, since you were 15, of course there is an attraction.

and miss each other at least for me it works that ways but I want to feel wanted again
He obviously doesn't feel the same way, and I'll bet he is content as to the way things are. He has his freedom, and you too, when he wants it. You want more than he is willing to give, and need to have that old feeling back. He doesn't!

I'm just so confused and I'm always thinking he's doing something bad I just don't know
You have been with him a long time thru your youth. He is all you know. When he is not there you are lost, because he has taken much from you, and you have given it willingly.

what:confused: should I do?
You need to find out who the heck you are, without him. You have not grown very much in 4 years, and now you depend on him to be happy, when you should be building a life that you enjoy without him. You should love yourself enough to be happy with just you, and have friends, and activities you love. Most telling is instead of working together you separate, thats not love, and after 4 years if thats all the love you have for each other, then you need to face the fact that this thing is over, regardless of whatever attraction you think you have, its clearly not enough to bond you, and carry the communications necessary to sustain a healthy, loving relationship with each other.

Be aware that you need to grow, and find out how to love YOURSELF.