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iceeman
Jul 25, 2008, 08:11 PM
I recently posted on here regarding my situation.. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/do-still-have-chance-237170.html#post1149165....and here I am and its driving me more crazy then ever before.. I thought it would get better but its not.. I tried the NC rule for about 3 weeks then I broke and I texted her telling her I was sorry and wanted to be on good terms.. now she just ignores me... so I don't know I'm trying to look at things positively.. maybe she isn't ready to face me yet.. or maybe she is just trying to forget me all together... I keep dreaming of her every so often and it drives me off the wall.. I get the funny feeling in my stomach.. you know what I mean lol... the last thing she told me was Only time will tell.. which I'm not sure what she is referring to but that's all I keep thinking about.. being my first love its driving me bonkers and I always sit and wonder it didn't have to be like this.. if I just growed some confidence and stop being so insecure.. now the regrets just linger in my head day in and day out non stop then ever before.. I know everyone says the first love never works or whatever.. but its like I knew what I was doing and I still did it anyway and I took it all for granted thinking I was invisible.. ugh... what to do what to do!. I can't get motivated any more for really anything.. even if she just said something to me I would a whole lot better and prob could get on with my life.. I donttt knowwww...

Loui
Jul 25, 2008, 08:29 PM
Here's the thing,
If you go crawling back, it will make you look like a dummy.
If you love her enough, you WILL and if you love her A lot, you should.
Good Luck!
~Loui

talaniman
Jul 26, 2008, 05:59 AM
Go back to, and stick with no contact, and focus on you, and your own healing.

Whenever she invades your thoughts, physically get up, and get busy doing something as anything will do, to change the focus of your attention. In other words, don't sit there thinking, get busy with building a life that you enjoy, without her in it, and go back to the things that made you happy, before you got with her.

iceeman
Jul 26, 2008, 07:12 PM
I recently posted on here regarding my situation..https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/do-still-have-chance-237170.html#post1149165....and here i am and its driving me more crazy then ever before..i thought it would get better but its not..i tried the NC rule for about 3 weeks then i broke and i texted her telling her i was sorry and wanted to be on good terms..now she just ignores me....so i dunno i'm trying to look at things positively..maybe she isnt ready to face me yet..or maybe she is just trying to forget me all together....i keep dreaming of her every so often and it drives me off the wall..i get the funny feeling in my stomach.. you know what i mean lol...the last thing she told me was Only time will tell..which im not sure what she is referring to but thats all i keep thinking about..being my first love its driving me bonkers and i always sit and wonder it didnt have to be like this..if i just growed some confidence and stop being so insecure..now the regrets just linger in my head day in and day out non stop then ever before..i know everyone says the first love never works or whatever..but its like i knew what i was doing and i still did it anyways and i took it all for granted thinking i was invisible..ugh...what to do what to do!!....i can't get motivated any more for really anything..even if she just said something to me i would a whole lot better and prob could get on with my life..i donttt knowwww....................................
On a side note she put on her myspace that she was just another "Notch on a bedpost" WTH does that mean is it some kind of metaphor or something..

simoneaugie
Jul 26, 2008, 08:07 PM
You have to return to NC, completely. Quit thinking about her and what something might mean. talaniman suggested that you get yourself busy doing things, that's good advise.

Do not think about her. Just make yourself stop. Even if you have to stop yourself 500 times a day. STOP! There are plenty of other things to get into a habit of thinking about.

It will get better. It will, promise.

talaniman
Jul 27, 2008, 12:26 PM
she put on her myspace
Stay off her myspace!!

How do you expect to get over someone if your constantly sniffing after her trail??

No wonder your having problems, Your stuck, because you are allowing your mind to play tricks on you.