samcaerter
Jul 17, 2008, 03:39 PM
Hi I'm going through a divorce and require a little advice.
Im currently working full time making roughly $30k pa which in this area (north Virginia) is not much at all. I just started this full time in preparation for this divorce(I was previously working part time). My problem is my husband barely worked. However what has just come to light is his parents have been giving us money to pay for our mortgage and bills and the like (I assumed this while he was unemployed even though I worked 3 jobs at 1 time) but I had no clue to the extent, they practically supported us 100% just to lesser amounts while my husband was working. Now I wish to make it on my own I don't want the house or any outlandish alimony just enough for a year or 2 so I can afford a place and live not comfortably but just live. At most $500 a month for a year or 2. maybe $500+car lease payments since my cars a lease (which I didn't want in the first place but he went behind my back and got) But since I'm working full time and again he's unemployed it looks like I can't ask for anything because in the eyes of the law he has nothing even though he's been supported by his parents for as long as I've known him and will likely continue to. And worst still he may be able to ask for support from me.
Has anyone got any advice for my situation. He's offered me $5k cash sum but that leaves me without a car and then I'm back to not having enough money to survive. Has ANYONE gone through a similar situation or know someone who has.
Im currently working full time making roughly $30k pa which in this area (north Virginia) is not much at all. I just started this full time in preparation for this divorce(I was previously working part time). My problem is my husband barely worked. However what has just come to light is his parents have been giving us money to pay for our mortgage and bills and the like (I assumed this while he was unemployed even though I worked 3 jobs at 1 time) but I had no clue to the extent, they practically supported us 100% just to lesser amounts while my husband was working. Now I wish to make it on my own I don't want the house or any outlandish alimony just enough for a year or 2 so I can afford a place and live not comfortably but just live. At most $500 a month for a year or 2. maybe $500+car lease payments since my cars a lease (which I didn't want in the first place but he went behind my back and got) But since I'm working full time and again he's unemployed it looks like I can't ask for anything because in the eyes of the law he has nothing even though he's been supported by his parents for as long as I've known him and will likely continue to. And worst still he may be able to ask for support from me.
Has anyone got any advice for my situation. He's offered me $5k cash sum but that leaves me without a car and then I'm back to not having enough money to survive. Has ANYONE gone through a similar situation or know someone who has.