Hey all,

I've got a date in about an hour and I've been sort of thinking since around 9 last night that I don't want to be in a relationship. Basically, there's this girl who likes me a lot. Now I think she's attractive, I think she's very sweet, but I've been so good without a relationship. I'm also afraid of the pain I experienced last September when I was left in an 9 month relationship...
I don't want that pain again..
I've talked to my friends about it, and they told me I should tell her that I don't want to get into anything too serious, but I don't want to kill the entire date.. I think I should tell her on a day after this.. that makes sense right?
I don't know, I'm just afraid of hurting her, and hurting myself...
Should I be? Or should I take a chance and just go with it?
Mind you this is the first time me and her have even hung out. We've talked for months, we've been good friends... but I don't know if I want to take it a step further. Maybe I should wait and see?

I'm just really lost...

You should tell her the first date before too far into it that you only want to date as friends because you are not ready to get into anything serious with anybody at this time. That way she won't take it personal that you felt it was a bad date and that is why you are saying that.

Yeah, I guess so. It seems like a friendly one now more though because she's bringing a friend along as well. I literally just found that out...
If she treats it as more then a friendly date then I'll tell her, but I thnk I should tell her towards the end..

Yeah you might not even have to tell her this time if she is bringing someone.
Or just bring it up in casual conversation like, "I am glad I am not in any relationship. It is nice to just be able to enjoy myself right now. Maybe someday......"

Hi

I think you should go on the date (well its over now it! Did you have fun?)

I mean if you have not veern hanging out together but have been talking and have been friends, then all you can do is go out and see!

That's exactly what me and my mate did and now, I believe we are in some sort of realationship together.

We went out on lots of days out spent time with each other as mates and yeeees it did turn into something.

So what I'm trying to say is.

Just because your going out with a girl it doesent mean that it's a date. Nor are you always going to get somit special out of it.

So don't worry

Just go out as mates. And see what happens!

Hope that halped
CAT XX

Thanks guys, it actually went really well, I didn't bring it up and I felt really relaxed around her. But thanks, your advice did help. I said "Yeah, this is fun, it's nice to go on a friendly date, you know with nothing serious or anything. I'm not really up for a serious relationship yet anyway" and it went smoothly.