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star soaked sky
Jun 25, 2008, 07:06 PM
I really like this guy. But he doesn't know me! I mean, I'm a freshman in high school and he's a somphmore. We went to the same junior high together but I never talked to him. We are in the same high school and all but the only thing he knows about me is that we went to the same junior high. I don't know if he knows my name.
ANSWER MEEE!
Thanks!

- star soaked sky

ylaira
Jun 25, 2008, 07:15 PM
Theres no way you two can get to know each other if u wont talk. R befirend one of his friends first then hang out with them.

IM4U
Jun 25, 2008, 07:17 PM
At your age, feelings are so strong and it sounds as if your feelings are sort of wrapped up in desiring this guy's attention. That's okay, as long as it does not overwhelm you and keep you from being okay.

Is it possible that you could have some sort of casual contact with him, like at lunch time and see if he wants to chat a bit. If he does not seem interested at all, try not to take it so hard. Talk about your disappointment with a friend and, if possible, with your parent(s).

But don't take it too personally. It does not mean you are not okay if one particular person that you want so much to have like you does not want to like you close up.

I know this is probably not what you want to hear, but I hope you will not let your hopes about one person get you all out of whack!

Disclaimer: What I am saying is just some opinions and views of my own. I don't take any responsibility for what might or might not happen if you try any of these thoughts.

kp2171
Jun 25, 2008, 08:24 PM
Take a chance. Talk to him.

When you are older you will realize all the time you wasted worrying about "what if" or "how can i" is really a shame.

You like someone? Talk to them. They don't like you back? You get over it and move on.

The sooner you can get over the fear of rejection, the sooner you will be empowered to go after what you want... even if you don't get it.

When I'm an old man I'm not going to look back and be upset about the things I did that made me fall on my face... I'm going to be pi$$ed off about the things I never tried to do because of hesitation... fear of rejection.

Eventually you learn that when you take leaps of faith and you fall... the landing isn't as ugly as you imagined.

So... you like the guy. There's nothing sexier than a confident woman. Nothing. So get over him. This isn't about him. Its about you. Talk to him to let him know you.

If he doesn't... there can be a lot of reasons. But at least you will know that you won't be spending night after night worrying about how to approach him. What a waste (ive done it myself when younger).

So... nothing like the present. Take control of yourself. Let yourself be open to failure. It happens. Sometimes a lot. But man... when it works, its worth the effort.

Don't make it bigger than it is. You simply like him. Fine. Find or create an opening and talk to him. Roll with whatever happens.

Guys are idiots until they are in their mid 20's at least (I sure was) anyway, so why fret about it?