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beast9009
Jun 23, 2008, 06:39 PM
I just got out of a year and a half relationship with a girl who I was in love with and wanted to marry. She took a break with me about 3 months before this and told me she liked the guy, but stopped liking him. We went back out a week later but 3 months later She took a break with me and hooked up with the guy she liked who is her best friend and who is also my friend. I found out that she had feeling for him for about the last 4 months of our relationship. Finally we became prementally broken up.

A week later I started to have feeling for another girl who is such a perfect girl but I believe she doesn't have feelings for me. She told me "she likes another guy but if she didnt she would definately go for me in a heartbeat". Should I just wait to see what happens? My ex girlfriend texted me and admitted she made a huge mistake and she still loves me and wants to get back with me. I really have feelings for this new girl but I don't think they are going anywhere because she seems as though she has none for me. Now Idk if I should get back with my ex or go for this new girl even though it might not work out. I don't want to go back with my ex and I'm not focusing on her but I don't know what to do about her. Im focusing all my time on this new girl but it doesn't seem like it will work out even though it might. I don't know what to do?

ylaira
Jun 24, 2008, 12:22 AM
So for your question, if should you go with your ex or with the girl who has no interest with you, maybe the answer is none. You can't shoot two birds in one arrow. You have to choose. How old are you? Maybe check yourself first what do you really want, how you would like to be treated, what do you deserve and what are the things that make you happy.

ylaira
Jun 24, 2008, 12:26 AM
... think that you are special person with great things to offer and it takes a special person for you to spend great moments with. Relationships just do come and you should not fit yourself into 2 or more bad options.

ISneezeFunny
Jun 24, 2008, 12:26 AM
How old are you?

This deal with your ex is a big no no. stay away from that. She wants a break whenever she likes someone else. So... yeah, forget that.

You can find other girls that will actually like you and stay with you without playing games.

N0help4u
Jun 24, 2008, 06:33 AM
Sounds like you need to just sit back and wait. Your old girlfriend jumps in and out of relationships (for breaks) too easily. If she can be with you and then need a break so she can get with someone that she has had feelings for for four months of your relationship it sounds like she doesn't know what she wants and would likely do it again. Maybe eventually you can get back together but right now she needs a break to let it sink in what she really wants. Right now you would be the rebound of the rebound in a sense.

JBeaucaire
Jun 24, 2008, 07:17 AM
Life is a pain, so many girls, so many feelings, so little time...

You can go out with multiple girls, just make sure they know up front you're dating freely.

When you set your sites on one girl, though, even if she hasn't set her sites on you yet, you do have to focus on her alone until she comes around or you give up. Otherwise, more confusion.

You have to learn how to focus on one girl at a time. You will always be attracted to multiple women. That's instinctive. But you have to be faithful in relationships.

talaniman
Jun 24, 2008, 08:40 AM
Leave them both alone, and enjoy your freedom for a while, and love 'em all, commit to none, until your ready, and they feel the same as you do.

Boristheblade
Jun 24, 2008, 11:24 AM
I was told I had to spread some rep. but yes I was going to suggest the same thing- to leave them both alone. All sounds very dramatic to me, drama isn't good- in time the right decision what you want to do will become clearer.