I've been married for 3 years but currently separated. All of a sudden my ex is calling me all the time to hangout. I have no problem with that except that he wants more then that. Awhile back he made it clear he just wanted to be friends but now its much more then that. I'm not sure if I should just give in and take it slow to make things work between us or just give up and stick to remaining friends?

Perhaps he's thinking with the wrong head... Talk with your family, and others you trust... Parents and Grandparents... Learn their true opinions, and consider them...

Separated means not divorced, right? So, you're not officially on the dating scene yet, right? SO, friendship is all that's appropriate right now, right?

How long have you been separated? Kids? Counseling?

There are some people who like the best of both worlds. They like the privileges of marriage without the responsibilities. Are you involved with one of them?

Some ex's seem to find it hard to make a clean cut. Are you one of them?

Perhaps your separation was made to give some space and think things through--to get some help for doing same. Are you thinking things through and getting help?

Is counseling for doing the marriage or doing the separation in order?

Best wishes to you as you deal with your difficult challenges.

Your only separated, not devorced so your not available to anyone except your husband.

Your ex. Is exactly that, you need to tell him to clear off whilst there is still a possibility of you and your husband getting back together again, should anything of a sexual nature take place with your ex. Or any other man, then you can forget all hopes of a reconcilliation with your husband, thus the end of your marriage.