gigi4
Jun 18, 2008, 04:00 PM
Hello,
I'm 45 years old previously married for 15 years. I have been dating this man for 1 year & 4 months. We were seeing each other about 4 days a week. We also shared family time with his family & mine. After having such an intense & strong relationship I thought it was heading at the right direction. He is a very nice man we have fun together & in so many ways we are so much alike.
But for the last couple of months I have been thinking If he wants our relationship to progress or maybe if he's just looking to stay this way. I got this feeling based on his home remodelings when he knows I'm not crazy about the area that he lives in, I just didn't feel too safe there and I have a nicer home & we both own other homes.
Our Break up took place 10 days ago when he spent the weekend with me when Sunday came I asked him very calmly where he sees our relationship going? He replied that our relationship is going great! He was trying to avoid my question. I told him that my son will be turning 21 and should graduate from college at the end of 2009 and at that point I
Would like for us to be together and he said that we are already together, it was almost like he was playing with his words.
I told him that I know how I feel about him & have no doubts that I want to wake up and fall asleep with him every night and If we are not in the same page than he needs to tell me. He replied that he is serious about me and why rush anything. I wasn't asking him for a decision at this point I just needed to know what he is thinking for the future.
After not getting a direct answer from him I felt so frustrated that I asked him to leave and he did and hasn't attempted to contact me in 10 days. His mother called me & called my parents to tell them how upset she feels about us breaking up. He is extremely stubborn I know he cares allot about me and felt comfortable with the relationship the way that it was & since I placed no demands in the past he felt no need for commitment.
He was placing demands on me not to go out with my friends at night day time was fine.
He is extremely jealous and I have made these changes to make it work, because all his other qualities are so good and he also did the same for me without me asking.
I have told him time after time that a good relationship is about trust, but he still can't deal with me getting together with the girls at night even for dinner.
Everything else with him has been great. I don't get how he can call me so much and wants to be with me at least 4 days a week and he's not even thinking about living together with me the near future! I need some advise!
I'm 45 years old previously married for 15 years. I have been dating this man for 1 year & 4 months. We were seeing each other about 4 days a week. We also shared family time with his family & mine. After having such an intense & strong relationship I thought it was heading at the right direction. He is a very nice man we have fun together & in so many ways we are so much alike.
But for the last couple of months I have been thinking If he wants our relationship to progress or maybe if he's just looking to stay this way. I got this feeling based on his home remodelings when he knows I'm not crazy about the area that he lives in, I just didn't feel too safe there and I have a nicer home & we both own other homes.
Our Break up took place 10 days ago when he spent the weekend with me when Sunday came I asked him very calmly where he sees our relationship going? He replied that our relationship is going great! He was trying to avoid my question. I told him that my son will be turning 21 and should graduate from college at the end of 2009 and at that point I
Would like for us to be together and he said that we are already together, it was almost like he was playing with his words.
I told him that I know how I feel about him & have no doubts that I want to wake up and fall asleep with him every night and If we are not in the same page than he needs to tell me. He replied that he is serious about me and why rush anything. I wasn't asking him for a decision at this point I just needed to know what he is thinking for the future.
After not getting a direct answer from him I felt so frustrated that I asked him to leave and he did and hasn't attempted to contact me in 10 days. His mother called me & called my parents to tell them how upset she feels about us breaking up. He is extremely stubborn I know he cares allot about me and felt comfortable with the relationship the way that it was & since I placed no demands in the past he felt no need for commitment.
He was placing demands on me not to go out with my friends at night day time was fine.
He is extremely jealous and I have made these changes to make it work, because all his other qualities are so good and he also did the same for me without me asking.
I have told him time after time that a good relationship is about trust, but he still can't deal with me getting together with the girls at night even for dinner.
Everything else with him has been great. I don't get how he can call me so much and wants to be with me at least 4 days a week and he's not even thinking about living together with me the near future! I need some advise!