I am a married women but I'm in love with two other guys I don't know what to do cause I don't want to be with my husband nomore please help

Did you mean in lust or in love?

How old are you, how long have you been married,

Why did you allow yourself to be in a position to "fall in love"

So you stop all contact with the men you have lust for and after that get into counseling with your husband

As I have stated many times before, I don't think it's possible to be in love with 2 people at the same time. And if you are "falling" for these 2 other guys, then there was obviously something at home that made you, even though it might have inadvertently, start looking somewhere else. You need to express these feelings you have with your husband and get into counseling. You should cut ties with these other gentlemen like Fr_Chuck suggested. Continued contact with them will make the counseling harder. I don't know how old you are but I think you should rethink your position before doing anything rash.

Do you love your husband? I guess not since you stated you don't want to be with him. How did you fall in love with two guys? Before you cheat, if you already didn't, you need to consider everything you have with your husband and leave if what your have is not fixable through counseling? Do your have any kids? Just think before acting because the grass is not always greener on the other side and it can be something your regret.

You need to tell mor details, like how long you had these feelings for these other guys and what lead up to this, and why you want to end your marriage, beside the questions listed above. Hope you response!

i am a married women but im inlove with two other guys i dont know what to do cause i dont want to be with my husband nomore please help

I think what you are feeling is not true love, that usually comes along once in your life, (more if your lucky) and should be treasured for the man you have married, maybe the spark has gone from your relationship and needs to be rekindled, are these two other men paying you lots of compliments? Perhaps your husband has stopped in that area, maybe you don't bother either,you don't say how long you've been together or if there are any other problems with your relationship or if there are any children!!

Ask yourself, honestly, if these two men didn't exist would you still be thinking of ending your marriage?.

MY advice would be to think very carefully before you do something drastic, pursue other avenues, seek some sort of professional guidance, sit and talk to each other.

If these two men are the only reason for the breakdown of your marriage, by that I mean that your husband is a good man and not a wife batterer or a drunk etc, etc... then you have some serious thinking to do, good men are hard to find, so I would stop the two man thing, the grass is not greener,( trust me I know... not by choice I might add) you should not even be thinking of a man in that way yet alone be thinking of divorcing your husband.

Who's to say these men don't go around chatting up all the women, how would you know,they may have broken up several homes in the process.

I can almost hear you saying " no their not like that", trouble is some are, is it worth the risk of losing a home and the love of a good man?

The choice is yours.

You need to think what would you do in your marriage even if these two guys were not in your life. You need to take a break and figure out what you want and go for it. As long as you go on the way you are you aren't going to get anywhere except making a complicated mess of your life.
You might like some qualities in one guy and other qualities in the other but if you feel you can't make a choice in any of them maybe none of them are all that right for you.
If you can't realize you love one more than the rest who is to say somebody else might not come along and you end up involved with them too? You need to prioritize according to what works for you in your life. Most any guy can have qualities you really like but it is unrealistic to get involved with any guy that comes along with good qualities. So set your standards higher - figure out in more detail what you want in a guy.
Ideally it is best to try and work on your relationship but some are beyond repair.

i think what you are feeling is not true love, that usually comes along once in your life, (more if your lucky) and should be treasured for the man you have married, maybe the spark has gone from your relationship and needs to be rekindled, are these two other men paying you lots of compliments? perhaps your husband has stopped in that area, maybe you don't bother either,you don't say how long you've been together or if there are any other problems with your relationship or if there are any children!!!!

Ask yourself, honestly, if these two men didn't exist would you still be thinking of ending your marriage?......

MY advice would be to think very carefully before you do something drastic, persue other avenues, seek some sort of professional guidance, sit and talk to each other.

If these two men are the only reason for the breakdown of your marriage, by that i mean that your husband is a good man and not a wife batterer or a drunk etc, etc....then you have some serious thinking to do, good men are hard to find, so i would stop the two man thing, the grass is not greener,( trust me i know...not by choice i might add) you should not even be thinking of a man in that way yet alone be thinking of divorcing your husband.

Who's to say these men don't go around chatting up all the women, how would you know,they may have broken up several homes in the process.

I can almost hear you saying " no their not like that", trouble is some are, is it worth the risk of loosing a home and the love of a good man?

The choice is yours.

The advice given by orphan could not have been better. Please take heed. You only go around this world once. :)

Don't confuse love with infatuation. These other guys are "new" so they seem all perfect, but once the infatuation settle down you'll finally take off those rose colored glasses. Umm.. . So which guy are you leaving your husband for or are you going to start a new relationship while already cheating?

I really don't think your in love, like people are saying its probably infatuation. They can be confusing. You said you didn't want to be with your husband anymore, you need to really think about it. You need to think about why you don't want to be with him and why you yearn to be with the others. And you can be in love with only one person because you can only give all your time, affection and love to only one. You can't split love in half. I you really feel that you do not want to be with your husband then you should just leave. Its not fair to him or you, if you two aren't happy together then its best to just end it. If he's abusive mentally, emotionally or physically, you can either get help and if he refuses then its over plain and simple.

Ummm.. WOW that's a bigie. UMMM you need to find away to get your mind away from those guys because you don't love them YOU CAN'T LOVE NO MORE THAN ONE PERSON AT A TIME (I just learned that). It can only be shared by 2 people not 3 or 4. YOU still love your husband its probably something that those guys are doing that your husband is not doing for you that's making you feel like your in love with them. So GET AWAY 4RM IT. DIVORCE IS NOT A GOOD THING.

Can I edit your words, please?

Married and in LUST with others.

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