burgalur
Jun 12, 2008, 12:55 AM
I have a 18 year old son in trouble. He has always been a great student, and recently graduated with honors. He is set for college and starts in a few months. However, he is not working this summer and refuses to become employed. This is especially troubling for me - his father and I divorced when our son was less than two because his father would not work. His dad continued to only work odd jobs throughout his life, and died from a stroke at 47 (two years ago) because he stopped taking his HP meds, since he could not afford them. My son and his father were close, and I am afraid he may repeat his father's bad behavior.
Since graduation, my son rarely comes out of his room, or his bed. He watches movies most of the day. He used to work out on a rowing team for 2.5 hours a day; now he will not go to the gym. He fills out applications for jobs because I "make" him, but has not gotten a job, even part time. I have started to take away the bits of financial support (pay for gas, cellphone) I have always given him, but he still is not interested in helping himself. He has been for counseling following his father's death, and is not interested in going back.
Any ideas how I can motivate this child into moving on with his life?
Since graduation, my son rarely comes out of his room, or his bed. He watches movies most of the day. He used to work out on a rowing team for 2.5 hours a day; now he will not go to the gym. He fills out applications for jobs because I "make" him, but has not gotten a job, even part time. I have started to take away the bits of financial support (pay for gas, cellphone) I have always given him, but he still is not interested in helping himself. He has been for counseling following his father's death, and is not interested in going back.
Any ideas how I can motivate this child into moving on with his life?