OK its been a month and a bit since me and my ex split. She dumped me by text and never let me have my chance to say anything to her. Lately I've doing a lot of work on my own and so have had lenty of time to think of things that I wanted to say. Now that its been so long and I still feel so bottled up, should I/cud I send her an email saying everything I wanted to say starting with 'firstly this sint trying to win you back, its just the things I never had the chance to say to you... ' what do you think?

I think not...

But I just feel so trapped with all the things I never said

Keep no contact if she wants to hear it she will contact you

My advice write it down in a letter your never going to send it will help you get a lot of the things off your chest

Yea I'm going to do that today. I'm going to write the whole thing put it away and know that 2morow I will be gla di didn't send it.

yea im gonna do that today. im gonna write the whole thing put it away and know that 2morow i will be gla di didnt send it.

Good idea.

One day you will be fine to send her a letter, and then you can do it. However, I can guarantee the letter will read much differently then...

I agree with everyone, stick with no contact you will come back the next day and feel better than you didn't send it

I'd have to go with everybody else too... stick to NC and the letter is a good idea.. its a way of saying what you feel without actually talking to her... be careful & don't send it!

ok its been a month and a bit since me and my ex split. she dumped me by text and never let me have my chance to say anything to her. lately ive doing alot of work on my own and so have had lenty of time to think of things that i wanted to say. now that its been so long and i still feel so bottled up, shud i/cud i send her an email saying everything i wanted to say starting with 'firstly this sint trying to win u back, its just the things i never had the chance to say to you...' what do u think?
It is very inmature to dump someone over text in my opinion, unless she is 13. Move on to a girl who gets it and has the guts to call you and COMMUNICATE.

Hey I agree with everyone here too
NO CONTACT its been as hard as hell for me to do the same thing and you get your moments and you get your days I find certyain things will remind me of her then I think... maybe I will just to get closure...
You know something my friend closure is b/s
It's a word you use to have contact again...
Why she did this to you in such a manner is horrible and not right...
But SHE dod it and she needs to live with it...
Does it get better?
Of course it does but its not an overnight thing I cried 4 times yesterday and I'm a grown man... I just blubbered..
Then coming in to work today that light shone on me again... the one from the end of the tunnel and you know something... its getting brighter by the day... it's a way off but it is getting brighter
Talking to her will make things much much worse hang in there a little longer you have many here who will help
Its funny we forget so many other magnificent things in our lives while we concentrate on them...
Just remember this... for every minute you sit round worrying about her and thinking what she is doing you lose on your own life...
Take a look round today my friend and embrace 'other things' I'm trying I'm like you its not easy but by god it DOES WORK!

Mr sadsackm I thank you! Everyone tells me the same thing but for soe reason your response really hit home and really gave me a wake up call. Eveyrthing you say is right! Thank you everyone. Do you use msn? It would be good to talk online.

ok its been a month and a bit since me and my ex split. she dumped me by text and never let me have my chance to say anything to her. lately ive doing alot of work on my own and so have had lenty of time to think of things that i wanted to say. now that its been so long and i still feel so bottled up, shud i/cud i send her an email saying everything i wanted to say starting with 'firstly this sint trying to win u back, its just the things i never had the chance to say to you...' what do u think?

No, don't contact her. If you harbour any desire to get back together with her, then any contact must come from her.

Bear in mind that she dumped you by text. That is cowardly. Why would you want to be with someone like that anyway?

I agree, don't contact her...

I was dumped over the phone, which bothered me for a while, so I can imagine that text is that much worse. In time it won't bother you anymore, but it still makes you feel like you were owed a little more than that.

Exactly. 4 weeks previous she came up to me crying her eyes out syaing she is brekaing down that she idnt with me anymore. I gave her the chance to talk after she had spent the previous 4 months playing complete mind games and mucking me around. But being a decent human being I gave her the chance to talk. But when she decided it was over again she didn't and still won't give me that chance.

I've maintained NC for about two years now. I see my ex every now and then and she even came up to me once while I was talking to some friends and we had a normal conversation. Were there any feelings involved? Absolutely not. Was it weird and a bit strange? Of course! Just today though I sent her an invitation to be my friend again on a social network site (she had tried many times before but I denied all offers) and I offered a chance to meet and catch up. I did these things knowing 100% sure and confident that I have no feelings for her and that since we dated for 6 years and I knew her for longer than that that its only normal for us to have some form of communication open. You've only been apart for a month. You can lie and say that you are ready to talk to her but from my experience I know that it took me months if not years. Don't do anything you are not ready for. I think the letter is a great idea. I wrote a lot when I went through my breakup. Don't just write a letter to her though. I would suggest you write down your thoughts, feelings, ideas, and anything related to the relationship. Write poetry if you have to and most of all continue using this forum and talk to more experienced people. I really don't think you're ready to have any contact with her. Keep this mine too. She left and never gave you a chance to speak your mind which to me is very disrespectful. Do you want someone like that? Ask yourself a lot of questions and try to answer them on your own because in the end, regardless of all the advise you get on here, only you can help yourself.

I completley agree. What kind of respect is that. She claims she was too annoyed at me to even think about meeting up and talking... but I mena come on. Just like that she turns and goes right, uve been in a miserable mood - I'm going to dump you by text! And that's it! Shows me that she neve cared at all! Really annoying! AND I KNOW THIS IS FOR BEST! But its so hard, because I really miss the girl I used to go out with! And horrible knowiong poele who don't care for her like I do/did, see her and have abetter relationship wiuth her than I do and ever will again!

i completley agree. what kind of respect is that. she claims she was too annoyed at me to even think about meeting up and talking.....but i mena come on. just like that she turns and goes right, uve been in a miserable mood - im gonna dump u by text! and thats it! shows me that she neve cared at all! really annoying! AND I KNOW THIS IS FOR BEST! but its so hard, coz i really miss the girl i used to go out with! and horrible knowiong poele who dont care for her like i do/did, see her and have abetter relationship wiuth her than i do and ever will again!

These are just some of the reasons for NC my friend. It is MUCH easier to remember who they were when you were together. If you can come to the understanding that it wasn't meant to be, and respect and remember them how they were, you avoid all of the confusion and questions which come from watching them change.

Perhaps they won't change at all, but just in case they do, get lost. It hurts to watch someone yo knew so well for so long change like that. You don't need that confusion.

I just feel so used and played by this girl. Ikeep thinking of when we first met. It was like love at first site... we were besotted with each other and now we're strangers. It's so sad. Time to get back to me. Get my career up and running, get fit, read more and do things I've never done before.

srulik86 -
I don't mean to be a b I tch but I've read your other posts saying how aweful you treated HER as well. Don't blame her just to make yourself feel better because you know deep down it was not all her fault. That will just harm you more in the long run.

It is sad!. When you think about the moments you spent together and the things you did & the "love".. but nothing lasts forever!. so now is time to move on!. & like you said: Time to get back to YOU, your career, your health & everything else... Good things will come!. (they promissed) :)

Squeaks 77 I did not once say it was all her fault! I am completely totally aware of the mistakes I made. But she's the one who let us go and finsihed by text! Bloody text! I saw a girl once for 2 weeks... and after 2 weeks I had the deceny to tell hr I didn't want anything serious... TO HER FACE! I;m not blamimg just her. I blame both of us!

Hi. I think it is totally immature to dump someone by a text message. I think its her loss you should find someone far more mature and better than that. I know once you have feelings for someone its not as easy as that but after meeting other people it must only get easier. Will someone please do my post I just put on please. Its about pregnancy thanks :)xx wish you all the nest with relationships

its just the things I never had the chance to say to you... ' what do u think?

Your letting those feelings distract you. Life doesn't always give us the closure we need.

I find that it's the mornings I feel worse. And moments during the day! Though last night at midnight I had just come bac from meeting with a friend and walking across embankment bridge (which me and her did often), I was a wee bit drunk and I just starred out over the river thames, listenig to incubus, thinking 'she should be here with me right now' and I got really down. But I have things to be looking forward 2. like I had just come back from a meeting with my friends who I'm setting up a theatre company with, but things like this, all the good things I want to tell her about, not because I want to impress her, but because I want to share these things with her.

Hey I agree with everyone here too
NO CONTACT its been as hard as hell for me to do the same thing and you get your moments and you get your days I find certyain things will remind me of her then I think .....maybe I will just to get closure...
You know something my friend closure is b/s
Its a word you use to have contact again...
Why she did this to you in such a manner is horrible and not right....
but SHE dod it and she needs to live with it...
Does it get better?
Of course it does but its not an overnight thing I cried 4 times yesterday and im a grown man...I just blubbered..
then coming in to work today that light shone on me again ....the one from the end of the tunnel and you know something .... its getting brighter by the day... its a way off but it is getting brighter
talking to her will make things much much worse hang in there a little longer you have many here who will help
Its funny we forget so many other magnificent things in our lives while we concentrate on them...
just remember this.... for every minute you sit round worrying about her and thinking what she is doing you lose on your own life.....
take a look round today my friend and embrace 'other things' im trying im like you its not easy but by god it DOES WORK!

So true. I cried on and off all day yesterday too. I was dumped on Sunday.

I go through so many different emotions. Currently I am doing a job which mean I spend all my time on my own. Just found out that the last 2 single mates of mine both have gfs... so I'm all on my lonesome. I go through emoptions of wanting her back so much, to hating her and feeling so much anger towards her, then I just really miss her, other times I just don't care. Is this normal?

You sound normal to me friend. Remember thoughts are only thoughts and are okay. Just don't act on those thoughts and you will be okay. I am sure those feelings of hate, love and anger will gradually diminish over time. But they will take time. Your mates may have GFs but they are still your mates and they are still there for you to some extent are they not? Are you exercising that will help deal with the pain.


I too have been tempted to call and beg her to come back but I will not allow myself to. I hate pain and begging her to come back will only cause the pain to last longer.

Your emotions are the same as mine. A couple of days ago I had a book that she lent me and forgot to get from me. I took it to a friend's place and we shot up with all manner of guns. I hope she asks for it back one day the look on her face would be priceless.

Hahahah that's brilliant! Alas I have no stuff of hers to shoot up. She has my copy of chasing amy though which sucks as its one of my favourite films. Do you use msn f104. amybe we could talk on there. I have a lot to say and I want to talk to someone who knows.

Lol... if you dot have anything of hers make like a big doll that loos like her and shoot that.. IDK.. im just giving an idea :D

Haha not a bad idea! I just get so angry when I think about her sometimes! Grrrrrr!!

hahahah thats brilliant! alas i have no stuff of hers to shoot up. she has my copy of chasing amy though which sucks as its one of my favourite films. do u use msn f104., amybe we could talk on there. i have a lot to say and i wanna talk to someone who knows.


Dude my MSN/e-mail is [email protected] feel free to contact me.

Of course I am at school at the moment. But when I get home in about 3 hours I will be at my computer.

Cheers buddy, I've just added u and will speak to u later.

lol...if you dot have anything of hers make like a big doll that loos like her and shoot that..IDK..im just giving an idea :D


Of get old records that only cost about 10 cents each and smash them with rocks that also feels great.

It just burns me. Ex's say things like "Oh this is the happiest I have ever been" and " I love you so much" or they tell there friends and familiy "He is so good to me and blah, blah, blah" and then they kick us to the curb.

cheers buddy, i've just added u and will speak to u later.

Cool mate!

Of get old records that only cost about 10 cents each and smash them with rocks that also feels great.

It just burns me. Ex's say things like "Oh this is the happiest I have ever been" and " I love you so much" or they tell there friends and familiy "He is so good to me and blah, blah, blah" and then they kick us to the curb.

I know exactly what you all mean. It is so hard.

Yep exactly. I mean 4 weeks before we split she actually had a breakdown because we were together and she said she had been crying for days and couldn't live without me and how she's never felt this way about anyone. 4 weeks later, she dumps me by text and that's it.. she's fine and apaprently we don't work well 2gther and its not meant to be. Hahaha its actually laughable... I mena how messed up is she? Or me for beliving her crap!

Hi Srulik,

You aren't messed up at all for believing her. You really loved her and thought she loved you too. Feel proud that you are so nice, and that you did believe her, even though she did this. You are a really good guy, and you know how to love someone. And you will certainly fall in love again with a woman who truly deserves to be loved by you.

Awww starlite1 thank you. I am human and I know I make mistakes, big ones sometimes, but one thing I do know is that I did love her and I do know how to love and I look forwad to being with someone who will love me back.

I know exactly what you all mean. It is so hard.


It is interesting how both men and women who get dumped seem to experience similar feelings.

Its weird. It's that feeling of being left behind! I ended things with her 5 months ago when she kept messing me around... and although I missed her, I actually felt very strong, oin control and able to move on easier. Then now she dumped me... I feel lost, alone and really sad. Both me and her av reversed roles.

My Ex left me once for about a month... I got used to being without him and was hanging out with friends and was moving on... Then he came back telling me it would never happened again.. blah blah blah... I accepted him... now he dumped me again!. fool me once shame on you, fool me twice SHAME ON ME!. w.e... I'm better off without him any ways!. :D

Yes u are! My ex dumped me 3 times - ALL BY TEXT! What does that make me? Hahaha

my Ex left me once for about a month...i got used to being without him and was hanging out with friends and was moving on...Then he came back telling me it would never happened again..blah blah blah...I accepted him...now he dumped me again!!...fool me once shame on you, fool me twice SHAME ON ME!!!...w.e...i'm better off without him any ways!!!...:D

Yes it sounds like yor are better off without him.

We are all better off without people are aren't going to give as much as we do!

we are all better off without people are arent gonna give as much as we do!

There is a DJ on a morning show around here who has mentioned, more than once, that there is no such thing as a 50/50 relationship. He claims that all relationships are 55/45 or 60/40 etc etc...

He states that it is never good to be the higher end person - you should always be the one on the lower side. Now I'm sure some of you will disagree, and state that 50/50 relationships do exist (as in each person cares equally, one person doesn't love more or better than the other), but the point is the same. If you love more than someone else, you have more to lose and therefore are in a worse position...

Not sure I buy the argument, but its something that makes you think.

bigbird213 I am not sure I like that point of view either even if the DJ was right. Sounds like he has been burnt too.

I get so intense when I like someone I cannot imagine ever being the one on the lower side.

Me too. At first I am always the one that is the higher and not as fussed, then usually one day I switch and become very intense... something I really need to work on.

For some reason I agree with that DJ... my mom told me all the time.. He who loves more, looses more... & I think its true... In my opinionn 1 person loves or is more committed than the other one---->l.. I guess I was the higher end person.:rolleyes:
Next time I need to be the one on the lower side...

I too always start at the lower end but as soon as they tell me they love me then I totally flip the other way.

I feel you!. lol

At the moment I'm going through the anger stage! I keep getting angry every time I think about her... angry at how she used me, how she let this go and how she just doenst realise! I think I'm on te right trac to recovery :)

I know how you feel...
Wait till she realizes what she lost!.

Yes I think you are on the right track to recovery. Now get out there and hand out those flyers and get those posters up sport ; )

Haha cheers buddy! Well I did it! I managed to get all the posters up! At long last! Keep staying strong buddy! As for her realising she claims she did realise what she lost 2 months ago when she started breaking down in tears in front of me... obviously she didn't REALLY realise and I hope someday she does and when she does ill reject her!. hopefully!

srulik86 I hear you mate, hear you lound and clear.

Well put Sadsack.

Exactly! I wudnt want to her back. And if I'm honest I just want her to be feelinmg ty like I am feeling! If I knoew she was feeling like crap then id be happy... wel not happy... but at least id feel something other than what I'm feeling.

I know.. I don't wish bad things to other people because I'm not like that.. but I think they deserve to feel like we feel... Is not a good feeling at all... but you know what don't worry about it, because right now they may be laughing or w.e but one day they will go through this crap... then they will realize how we felt... KARMA baby!. (*evil laugh*)


Just so you know: Im a dork!. lol

Hahaha your the best dork there is! Uve just put a smile on my face!

Awww.. thx... always glad to help :D

I've been out with my mate today, and was looking thorugh his sketch book... so many things he wrote I could relate with... al about his life, his girlfriend etc... heres someone I thought was so happy... I may av been wrong. But speaking of happy, 2 months ago I was at the highest of happiness. Ieverything career wise was going amazing, I had my girl, my bdan was on TV, everything was great and I couldn't av been more happier... thats when I got scared, I was just wiating for things to fall apart and stupidly rocked the boat and things did start to fall apart. I went out last night, spoke to afew girls in clubs, but nothing felt right. I just want to be with my ex... yet saying that I could never trust her again.

ive been out with my mate 2day, and was looking thorugh his sketch book....so many things he wrote i could relate with...al about his life, his gf etc....heres someone i thought was so happy...i may av been wrong. but speaking of happy, 2 months ago i was at the highest of happiness. ieverything career wise was going amazing, i had my girl, my bdan was on tv, everything was great and i cudnt av been more happier...thats wen i got scared, i was just wiating for things to fall apart and stupidly rocked the boat and things did start to fall apart. i went out last nite, spoke to afew girls in clubs, but nothing felt right. i just wana be with my ex....yet saying that i could never trust her again.

I know you you feel. I am at school at the moment so I can't IM you. But I can identify with the way you are feeling mate. It sucks. So what are you doing today? Are you being good to yourself?

Hey buddy,
I'm all good. I'm going out tonight. I went out last night and I just couldn't get it into my head that me and her are really over. It just wudnt sink in last night, I was thinking 'is she serious? Does she seriously want nothing to do with me ever again?' I wanted to text her and say 'look I'm not asking you back, just you need dto know that one day u WILL regret letting us go and will realise!' but there's no point in my sending that. I just want to spend my night with her 2nitem, but instead I'm seeing friends which will be cool, but id rather be snuggled up in bed with her. I just feel like I'm not making any progress.

hey buddy,
im all good. im going out 2nite. i went out last nite and i just cudnt get it into my head that me and her are really over. it just wudnt sink in last nite, i was thinking 'is she serious? does she seriously wnat nothing to do with me ever again?' i wanted to text her and say 'look im not asking u back, just u nee dto know that one day u WILL regret letting us go and will realise!' but theres no point in my sending that. i just wanna spend my night with ehr 2nitem, but instead im seeing friends which will be cool, but id rather be snuggled up in bed iwth her. i just feel like im not making any progress.

Mate you are making progress. You wanted to text her but you did not. That is progress. I felt the same way yesterday.

Just remember we are all doing this one day at a time. You are not alone. We are all sucking wind at the moment but we will be okay with time. YOu are a source of inspiration to me. Keep letting us know you feel. I know it hurts like blazes but that's okay and normal. YOu are a good person. Hang in there mate.

Just keep going. Its not easy, but you will come out the other end of the tunnel your in now.

Ooo witchywoman,
I like what Damaged said about making a doll out of her,
Let me know if you want an authentic voodoo doll in her image,lol!
Feel better it takes time

Haha thank you witchywoman!

I actually came on here at 3:30am this morning after a night out ready to rant about my ex... f104 got it on msn haha... sorry buddy!

But I've just had enough, I went out last night,saw my friends and the goirls were euther getting their breatst out much to the annoyance of their bfs, every couple there had an augment by the end of the night and were all miserable with each other and the girls I did talk to all had bfs... which made me think 'how can I ever trust a girl?' and not only that but is there really such thing as love. I'm a big romantic, and a big flirt, but when I av a girl in my life who I love oim compltly devoted to her, I just, after my bad experience with women, don't think I can ever trust another woman again. Why is it that after a night out couples must argue, why do some girlsscream for guys attention by flashing or talking to other guys whilst their bfs aren't about
I just don't think I can ever love/trust again afterf being hurt so bad by all my ex;s especially my previous, but I don't want to end up alone but know I will with this mentality.

Try something new and different, like volunteer work at a local hospital. Trust me after seeing others who are in need and have issues, you'll get a much clearer, and healthier perspective of life.
Your lousy love life, is not the only thing happening around you, and you must open your eyes, to see it.

Yep your right! But being surrounded by EVERYONE in a couple it makes me think that's what I should be doing, being in a relationship. Like it's the 'done thing'. And I know it isn't, which is why I just want to get out and away from everyone in these couples. I spent 3 years in college with everyone paire dup except me, noe I'm out of college all my mates and I mean ALL of them are who keep bringing their girls out. Wudnt say I'm jeaous, but its depressing.

Sorry guys I just feel so low at the moment. I really really miss her, and want to just be the way things were which I know is just not the case. All my friends av their own lives now, who I rarely see and when I do I just get to see the coiuples rub it in my face. I just feel so lonely at the moment. My best mate is in another country and won't be back for ages. I just want to call her and have a chat. I just want to av a laugh again and smile again. A month ago I wa son top of the world. I had everything.. now I feel like I don't av anything.

Hi Srulik,

I am so sorry that you are feeling so sad. I know it is hard, and I know how you feel. My friends are all married and have moved to different states. I am basically alone here. I miss my ex so much. I love him with all of my heart, and it is so tough. I try and keep myself busy, but there are days were I have no 'get up and go'. We all must keep ourselves occupied, especially when our friends are in relationships or not around. We have to be our own best company. I know that sucks, but we have to some how do this. Do you have any hobbies or things that you would like to do that you have never done before?

I actually used to love spedning time with myself and am one for doing that and can av fun on my own, but since splitting with her she is all I can think about. I'm a trained actor, recently graduated, and so kind of doing the networking, writingletters, auditioning and setting up my own company with my mates which is awsome. But she is an actress too, in her first year so my only thoghts of drama school are of her now which is really sad and every time I go back, which I do at least once a week for dance, and seeing friends, I see her and that gets me down. I would really love to travel to america but I really av no money at all. I really want to read more, would lovbe to join a baseball/softball team... and above all, meet someone new. Like you said I just don't av the get up and go sometimes. But I need to drive myself and be who I was before I met her, a very confident young actor, driven, hard working and happy with my station in life. But now I just feel low, I've never felt so alone in my life. I just want to do something life changing and stop feeling that I should be like my friends who have steady jobs and settled down with their girls. Right that's it! Today I'm going to write the rest of my play, going to read a book and sig up to join a baseball team. I'm currently working so I'm getting money which is nice. I'm not saying I even want my ex back because I don't think I could ever trust her again, but I just miss her company so much.

I hate to be such a MOTHER, on FATHER'S day, but getting off the pity pot, and getting some action going, even if its cleaning your mirrors is what you need.

ACTIONS, NOT WORDS.

Yep your right buddy, had a good chat with a friend earlier who put a lot of things in perspective, going to go do what I want to do.

AGGHHHH! I was just on Facebook and a friend added a video from college, which I watched and my bloody ex is in it! AND now she's all ing up my mind! Agghh! I want to contact her, but I just know I shudnt. And wats worse is in 2 weeks I have to go watch my student films and she'll bloody be there! I don't want her back but I miss her like mad. I just got to ride the seas!

Srulik mate don't do it. Man my computer at home is down at the moment or I would IM you.
Hang in there mate.

Cheers buddy. I won't. Its just s hard... knowing she is out there and knowing watshe is doing and seeing her happy.

Well then you should try to be happy too!. Its hard, but you got to try.. Smile even if you don't feel like it.. lol... you"ll see you'll end up felling better afterwards :)... I've tried it..

Hi Srulik,

Everyone is right. Try and do something that will make you happy! I wouldn't contact your ex though, because even at the moment you feel good talking with her, when the converstation is over, you will feel miserable. You are doing so well, try not to give in!

I won't! I really won't! I just had news on a big audition today and its horrible because I want to share the news with her. Though I'm sure it has got back to her since I told mutual friends. I couldn't have her back, I just miss her.

An audition? Very cool, for what?

A new musical at the theatre royal. Its good that I have something to focus on this week.

That is great!! Good for you, congratulations! :)

A new musical at the theatre royal. At least I have something to keep me busy.

Well I went into college yesterday to record something and we saw each other... though I made it quite obvious I wanted nothing to do with her. We didn't even say hello. She came out of the green room with her mate, saw me and they both just froze in my line of vision, until I got up and left with someone I was talking to. I tyhen spent the next hour in the courtyard where she kept parking herself so that she was in my vision. Then later I was outside her studio and came out from behind me and so shouted quite loud to her mate 'hellllo!' to get me to turn round, but I knew, she was there so I didn't. She ende up going home. Worse thing is that she kept looking over and when these 3 3nd year girls went 'steeeeeevve' to me and came to give mea bug hug I could see form the corner of my eye, my eye just starring. Anywhew, I'm actually in agood mood, because I was veey strong I thought and strangely I just don't care anymore. I know things can never be the same, I wudnt av her back even if she begged me because I couldn't trust her again, and I just got too many other things I want to do and other girls I want to meet... and not her! I'm happy :)

Well done mate! Sounds like you are doing well with the NC. Also sounds like she may be thinking she made a mistake. I guess it must suck to be her. My home computer is stilll down. Should have it fixed next week. Anyway I and my ex talked a couple of days ago. So NC was broken and I am not sure where we sit at the moment. She talked about "hanging out" next weekend for a bit whatever that means.

Srulik,

Good Job! I am glad you are feeling better. And you are right, go do what you want to do, and meet a new woman! I am very happy for you! Keep up that strength!

F104,

I think it's great that you and your ex are going to get together. How did she sound?

Star she sounded really good. Totally upbeat. We did not talk about the relationship. The conversation was mainly about her and what she had been doing etc. She mentioned "hanging out" next weekend some time. I wish I could say that I am not getting my hopes up but I am.

Maybe things will work out for both you and me.

Star she sounded really good. Totally upbeat. We did not talk about the relationship. The conversation was mainly about her and what she had been doing etc. She mentioned "hanging out" next weekend some time. I wish I could say that I am not getting my hopes up but I am.

Maybe things will work out for both you and me.

Sweetie, that would be great! I hope they do too ;)

Hey guys,

Thanks for the support. I just did an audition which went quite badly, so feleing a bit low right now and tempted to text of comfort... but I know it will do no good at all! So not going to. f104, congrats mate. Just take it slow, don't push her, etc but you know all that anyhow. I really hope it works out for you mate. We'll av a proper ctach up when your computer works again.

Hi Srulik,

I'm sorry that the audition didn't go well. But, that is a good thing that you came here instead of contacting her. :)

Exatcly. I wrote out a text which I wanted to send then saved it on my fone. And said to myself 'only do it if you get a sign' and the next song on my fone was 'forget her' by jeff buckley hahahaha. So I take it I shudnt.

exatcly. i wrote out a text which i wanted to send then saved it on my fone. and said to myself 'only do it if u get a sign' and the next song on my fone was 'forget her' by jeff buckley hahahaha. so i take it i shudnt.

Oh Man! LOL! (that is a good song, too!). Well, I too look for signs as well sometimes. And I think the sign you received was right on target! ;)

I agree. Then I got a fone call from the casting director for this next show I'm going for on Tuesday and I saw that as a sign saying stevie boy 'work your off for this!' forget her!

i agree. then i got a fone call from the casting director for this next show im going for on tuesday and i saw that as a sign saying stevie boy 'work ur off for this!' forget her!

Absolutely! That is another key sign, too!

I'm not one for signs, but pat yourself on the back, for not sending that text. A little progress, is still progress.

I just hope if a song came on called "Do it" you wouldn't do it.

... remember its just a song - coincidence is nothing to base your life on :)

Too bad about the audition mate. How are you doing otherwise?

Yea I'm doing good. Out with the lads tonight, enjoying single life. Trying to forget about her and slowly am which is good. Got another audition to prepeare for on Tuesday which is something to work towards. How are you buddy?

OK now how does this make sense? I see my ex girlfriend yesterday, I don't give a damn about her when I see her, and even after she's gone I don't care... now a day later I start to miss her. And I was just talking to a guy in her class and he said she's going to be in his musical and he originally wanted me to play guiatr for it and I said 'oooo glad your not anymore, would be a bit award with her' and he said 'yea' we then sp[oke abit about it and I said 'end of the day we're two different people' and he said 'well I know you both and I would agree.' whichstrangely annoyed me because I thought 'NO YOU Don't KNOW US LIKE THAT AND WE DO WORK VERY WELL TOGETHER' and now I'm all hung up on her. Just got to stop myself from contacting her. Why now though do I feel like this?

Mate I guess you feel the way you do because you still care. Sadly this stuff seems to take a while to work through. Some days are better than others. Perhaps you wanted your buddy to refute what you said. That way it would give you hope that if others think you and your ex are good together then maybe you are.

Have fun tonight with your mates.


As for day man it is draining. I am hoping my ex wants me back but in all reality I just do not know. I hope she is just not trying to be friends or any of that e. Still when I see her I am going to tell her how I feel and go from there.

Just found out my best mate is shagging my ex. Well I knoew. I ing knew it!

She is an immature freak who hadn't even had the decency to break up in a proper manner. A kid breaks up like that ( teen), she's a loser. Hold on, get your mind off her, take up a new hobby, and show her that you are better off without her and happy. You will look desperate if you contact her. Show her that she's a big loser and you are much happier without her, she must have been using you, if she broke up with you like that.
Show the foolish girl.

She's been on the fone to me braking down crying realising she has been used by him and I said 'yep you have, ui wudve given you anything. Now your just not worth anything to me'... ah sod it I don't even want to talk about it.

Srulik I am sorry man that sucks. Still at least you know. Hey dude I am back online now.

This will be my last day on this website as I don't see any need for it anymore as I'm no longer pining over that skank. I've wated enough time pining over her and on here, she can go to hell and ing die with him.

You should write it all down. If you write an e-mail... save it as a draft and go back to it. If it's truly about getting it off your chest, and you can't do that until you have your say... then that is your right. Sending a text to to break-up with someone is a cowards way out... so always keep that in mind. Make the decision that causes you to feel at peace inside, whether you hit "send" or "delete" Just read it over carefully if you send.