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dtres
Jun 9, 2008, 12:35 AM
Hey...
I need your help guys. My ex broke up with me 2 months ago. It was his b'day a few days back and after contemplating about whether I should wish him or not I finally decided NOT to wish him. But guess what my will kind of broke down and I decided to wish him the next day by scrapping him- belated happy b'day. Now all I was expecting was a thanks,honestly. Now its been two days and he hasn't scrapped back.Wat's wrong with him? He hasn't deleted that scrap either.Wats going on here? Does he hate me?

jiltedgirl
Jun 9, 2008, 12:41 AM
I don't think he hates you, dtres. A myriad of reasons could explain why he hasn't replied, but the reality of the situation is that you two are no longer together. You guys only broke up 2 months ago. It's obvious you still harbor feelings for him, which is absolutely expected, but you need to give each other time/distance to move on. It may be that he's taken this route.

Best.

dtres
Jun 9, 2008, 01:19 AM
Thanks jiltedgirl... I guess you are right. But all I wish was that he had said a thanku and moved on.Basic courtesy isn't it? It would have been easier for me to also move on then. But what he has done has only left me wondering WHY?

talaniman
Jun 9, 2008, 06:19 AM
That's all on you, and his actions are very clear. Its your disappointment in not having your expectations met, that have you tripping, and you should chalk it up, and move on yourself.

JBeaucaire
Jun 9, 2008, 06:27 AM
If you were being honest, you'd realize you weren't hoping he'd respond "out of common courtesy." You were wishing he'd respond because you were hoping to get more in the response, including some sense of how he's doing and even some positive glimmer back at you.

Admit it.

Since you were the one who GOT dumped, this is all perfectly normal. It will take you a long time to get over the idea that "he'll be back if I can just ___________". This mental trap is yours to fall into every time you give it a chance...

Be strong. Your future "mr awesome relationship" is already headed your way. Don't miss it while fretting over "mr yesterday."

damaged
Jun 9, 2008, 06:30 AM
Agree...
He hasn't reply because he doesn't want to.. Don't think about it too much.. Stay away from him & move on.. Apparently he's doing the same thing!

eastcoast1
Jun 9, 2008, 06:38 AM
Lesson learned, don't text him ever again, you know he won't reply.