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renee77
Jun 5, 2008, 11:42 AM
My daughter is 21/2 years old and she has suddenly from a sweet toddler become aggressive with her playmates,she has become very stubborn also and throws a tantrum without any reason.as long as she has company she is happy otherwise she is cranky and throws tantrums... HELP.. she is driving me insane.
renee77:(

Sues Lab
Jun 5, 2008, 11:59 AM
Sounds like terrible twos to me

brandizzle
Jun 24, 2008, 05:33 PM
Definitely terrible twos. I have three sons and we all know boys are lazier than girls, so we had terrible threes. Do NOT give in to tantrums. Ever. This will only teach her she gets what she wants with them. It is hard, but try to ignore her and not give importance to her tantrums. She will learn they are a waste of her time and energy. As with all things related to children, its not easy.

danielnoahsmommy
Jun 24, 2008, 05:58 PM
Normal behavior. Be very consistent in your discipline techniques. She is or will be testing her limits.

Negrita10
Aug 29, 2008, 04:26 PM
my daughter is 21/2 years old and she has suddenly from a sweet toddler become aggressive with her playmates,she has become very stubborn also and throws a tantrum without any reason.as long as she has company she is happy otherwise she is cranky and throws tantrums...HELP..she is driving me insane.
renee77:(
well this is n a normal stage of ealy childhood give her some time and be patient and talk to her about her problems talk to the teacher about her beheivor at school.

amanda-kym
Sep 25, 2008, 03:28 AM
Just be persistent I have this from my 4 year old and have been to a positive parenting class. The best thing you can do is let them know what you accept and what is wrong and don't bend the rules for any exception as they do play on this. I know its frustrating but will be worth it in the end. Also find activities you can do together and ones she can do on her own and make time to do this when she is about to get grumpy. Distraction is a great tool 2 have

jenns
Oct 16, 2008, 07:25 AM
I also have a two yesr old and I am a child developmental specialist.

This is typical behavior for this age. She is learning that she can become more independent but it having a hard time realizing when to use it. At this time the most important this is being consistent with how you handle it. What ever disapline method you use make sure you use it EVERY time the behavior occurs. If she throws and item out of frustation, explain that it is OK to get upset if something does not work the way she want it too, and encourage her to aske for help. If she is trowing things out of anger as a result of something you or another said done then you need correct the behavior. There are several ways to deal with behavior but I personally like time out. Have the place for time out be the same place all the time and leave her there for the amount of time that equals her age. Once done tell her what she has done wrong and give her a hug. It is frustrating as a parent, I know but being consistent is the best tool. As soon as you give in or bend the rules it shows her that she can break you and trust me she will. Some behavior will get worse when a new plan is in effect before it gets better and this is common too, they are just trying to break you at the point too. Just remember if she does not sit in time out, just continue to bring her back to the spot, with out sying anything or looking at her. The less contact the better! Hope this helps.