mimi03
May 30, 2008, 04:02 PM
It hasn't been long since my last post but now I need you guys more than ever...
My mom called me today to tell me she had a BABY!
No! Not "I'm pregnant" BUT "I had a baby!"
I am completely furious and I feel helpless!
First let me say that I am the oldest of 5 there's 2 other girls and 2 boys and they are 18, 16,15 and 10... My mom isn't married and has had strings of bad relationships... the father of this new child is a man that she's been dating off and on for at least 5 years in which she supported him and he never formed any type of relationship with us (My siblings and I). We just saw him coming in late at night and leaving in the morning (he did move in a couple of times but it never lasted long)
I want to cut this story short but there's just so much history...
I'm mainly upset because she didn't woman up and let us know she was pregnant until she came home with a baby and I'm pissed because her and my 18 yr old brother don't get along already(b/c we've all had issues w/ her relationships... she'd put her men before us sometimes and he took it the hardest) and this has made that bad blood surface again...
Basically she left 3 days ago, didn't tell them where she was going (to deliver the baby) and came back with another child and she's now acting as though he (my brother) should have welcomed her home with open arms...
She got mad because my brother was on the phone telling me that she lied to me when she said she told them that she was in the hospital... she rushed into his bedroom and took the phone away from him and started to hit him saying she already apologized for the situation but she did tell him she was in the hospital she only left out the part about the baby because she didn't want to tell him over the phone...
I know she feels stupid for this whole thing (as she should) but it's like she's picking a fight with my brother just to be right about something... but the fact is She can't afford another child and she didn't even have the guts to tell anyone until she delivered...
This stuff and more just happened TODAY! I just feel so helpless, because I don't live near my family so I just can't drive over to help my siblings out, I wish that I could take them in but I cant... I want my siblings to have a better life than my mom is providing... she's already struggling to take care of the 4 she has at home now and she has added another child to this! She's so careless and I know I sound like I have no compassion but I didn't vent this to her and I need to vent it to someone..
How can I advocate for my brother and other siblings in this situation, How can I make it better for them?
My mom called me today to tell me she had a BABY!
No! Not "I'm pregnant" BUT "I had a baby!"
I am completely furious and I feel helpless!
First let me say that I am the oldest of 5 there's 2 other girls and 2 boys and they are 18, 16,15 and 10... My mom isn't married and has had strings of bad relationships... the father of this new child is a man that she's been dating off and on for at least 5 years in which she supported him and he never formed any type of relationship with us (My siblings and I). We just saw him coming in late at night and leaving in the morning (he did move in a couple of times but it never lasted long)
I want to cut this story short but there's just so much history...
I'm mainly upset because she didn't woman up and let us know she was pregnant until she came home with a baby and I'm pissed because her and my 18 yr old brother don't get along already(b/c we've all had issues w/ her relationships... she'd put her men before us sometimes and he took it the hardest) and this has made that bad blood surface again...
Basically she left 3 days ago, didn't tell them where she was going (to deliver the baby) and came back with another child and she's now acting as though he (my brother) should have welcomed her home with open arms...
She got mad because my brother was on the phone telling me that she lied to me when she said she told them that she was in the hospital... she rushed into his bedroom and took the phone away from him and started to hit him saying she already apologized for the situation but she did tell him she was in the hospital she only left out the part about the baby because she didn't want to tell him over the phone...
I know she feels stupid for this whole thing (as she should) but it's like she's picking a fight with my brother just to be right about something... but the fact is She can't afford another child and she didn't even have the guts to tell anyone until she delivered...
This stuff and more just happened TODAY! I just feel so helpless, because I don't live near my family so I just can't drive over to help my siblings out, I wish that I could take them in but I cant... I want my siblings to have a better life than my mom is providing... she's already struggling to take care of the 4 she has at home now and she has added another child to this! She's so careless and I know I sound like I have no compassion but I didn't vent this to her and I need to vent it to someone..
How can I advocate for my brother and other siblings in this situation, How can I make it better for them?