I miss my dad so mucdh I'm sixteen now I just turned sixteen and me and my dad used to be so close but... he would hit my mom and cheat on her and me growing up I saw all that and as I was getting older I started to understand everything and I started to speak up. I told my dad I hated him because I love my mom so much with all my heart and to see someone hit her it hurt more than anything I use to cry my eyes out... after I said that to my dad we just stopped talking even though he still lived in the same house its hard for me to forgive but I've forgave my dad... but he just wount forgive me... we fell apart when I was like thirteen. He don't live with me and my mom anymore he has a job where he has to travel this has been going on for like eight months now he still comes and visits... barely at all. I miss him so much I've never told him in person that I'm sorry but I've wrote it in fathers day cards and everything I just told him a few months ago that I love him before he left again.. he told me he loved me too that was the first time us saying that to each other in as long as I can remember. But now him and my mom are falling apart they still talk on the fone all the time but hardly at all. And I'm just so afraid me and him are going to loose contact all togheter I need my dad but I just don't think he realizes that. Sometimes I think he feels like he's better off without me. And I always feel like he don't even want to claim me as his daughter... I don't know what to do.

Hi I'm sorry for what you have seen between your mom and dad. I don't know what I would have done if it was me. But I will say this, your dad loves you more than anything. No matter what happens he is your dad and you are his daughter and nothing is going to change that. I think its hard for him to know that he hurt you by hurting your mom. He might not know how to put things right with you or your mom. I not excusing him but keep doing what your doing by tellling him you love him and miss and go from there. Don't think its your fault. I hope its sorted soon.

Hi i'm sorry for what you have seen between your mom and dad. I don't know what i would of done if it was me. But i will say this, your dad loves you more than anything. No matter what happens he is your dad and you are his daughter and nothing is going to change that. I think its hard for him to know that he hurt you by hurting your mom. He might not know how to put things right with you or your mom. I not excusing him but keep doing what your doing by tellling him you love him and miss and go from there. Don't think its your fault. I hope its sorted soon.


Thanks for commenting it really means a lot to me

I am sorry for many things, first that your mom allowed the abuse to happen, she should have taken you and left for a shelter long before.
You did not say if your dad has gotten any counseling for his anger but that is important. It is very important that you also learn that abuse is not love and that when you find someone they are not a person who would abuse you. ( this is so often the case)
I know you miss your dad but your safety is also important