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strawberryboat
May 27, 2008, 04:17 AM
I like a guy who is in the same college with me. We have hanged out for two months. He never told me that he liked me, but we watched movie and do things like that a lot.
I have a male friend who happens to be his roommate. My friend is a straightforward person, and he told me that, "He doesn't like you." I asked him how he knew that, and he just told me that he had the feeling.
And my friend told me that the guy I like doesn't deserve me because he could just play video games.
In this summer, he indeed doesn't contact me at all. I guess my friend is right. But my friend doesn't know that we hanged out, and he doesn't even know that I know the guy's phone number. He let me forget him.
Should I listen to my friend?

JBeaucaire
May 27, 2008, 05:18 AM
Should you listen to your friends?

Yes.

And no.

If you never listen to nor heed the advice of friends, then they hold no other value in your life than any stranger would hold. They should have something meaningful to add to the topics of discussion. Fair?

But, even friends can't speak for 3rd parties. I seldom allow this, even from my closest friends. They can tell me what they think, not what other's think. They can tell me what they believe I should do, but can claim no understanding based on what they believe someone ELSE would do as a result. Does this make sense?

In a nutshell, NO ONE should speak for someone else. You shouldn't do it, you shouldn't let your friends do it.

Lastly, stop asking your friends how you should lead your life. Even if the guy you like DOESN'T like you "that way" does that mean you don't take a shot at him? Of course not, you go for it.

I once asked a girl out 6 times before she finally said yes. She literally wasn't interested in me at all. At ALL. But she finally relented and we had a good date.

Now we've been married 23 years.

Live your own life. Speak for yourself. Do not accept at face value any time anyone speaks for someone else. Go for what you want because it is a good goal, not because you are certain to get it. Go for it anyway.