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ashie_poo23
May 23, 2008, 10:04 AM
Okayy. Me && this gut have been dating for a month && then myy parents made us break up because he is 18, he is still in school though && I'm 14. He means everything to me though && I love him with everything I got && he loves me too, trust me I know. I've tried explaining to my parents how I feel. && my mom said she just don't want him to get in trouble && she don't care && she likes this guy I'm with. On the other hand my dad flipped out :( I just don't know what to do. He said he would wait for me so we could be together. What should we do?
ZigZag07
May 23, 2008, 10:06 AM
OMG!!
IM IN THE SAMEEE SITUATION! Wow.. its great to meet someone who has the same thing to deal with!
My boyfriend told me he wood wait for me to, but I can't imagine breaking up with him. But I'm just like you, I love him so much... are you guys still together?
ZigZag07
May 23, 2008, 10:24 AM
you... well.. good luck with eveverything with you and him! My guy.. well... idk. He might be moving to Michigan :( which is totally random for him.. but o well right? We haven't talked about it much.. and he's been working so much we haven't gotten to hang out a lot... so I don't know
haha
Rockstar714
May 23, 2008, 10:30 AM
Your parents have your best interets in mind... I know it doesn't seem like a huge difference, but at 14, the emotional levels between you and him and incredibly different. He is 18, legally he is an adult and he'll be wanting to do adult things. You may not be emotionally ready for the things he wants to do, and your parents probably know that.
When I was 14 I dated an 17 year old for 4 months, thought I was in love, but guess what? He dumped me a week prior to his 18th birthday because he wanted things I couldn't give him. Did it hurt? Yes, but I got over it realising that I wasn't ready for an ADULT relationship.
You could sit down with him and see if he'll really wait for you, then wait it out. Have fun being a 14 year old, don't grow up too fast... cos when you're grown up, you'll wish you were 14 again. :)
ScottGem
May 23, 2008, 10:50 AM
Listen to Rockstar. If he's willing to wait for you, then let him wait. But I understand your dad flipping out. The odds are that the only thing an 18 yr old would want from a 14 yr old is to get into her pants.
You say to trust you that you know you are in love with him. I'm sorry but one cannot trust a 14 yr old to know love. I'm not saying you aren't, but the odds are against it. We've heard from a lot of people in their 20s who fell truly in love at 14, 15, 16, only to realize that it wasn't true love when they got old enough to process these emotions.