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meking31
May 21, 2008, 11:05 AM
My girlfriend and I have been together off and on for two years the break ups have been my fault she is a great and wonderful woman. We broke up a month ago and I left while I was gone she took the kids to a fair and talk to a vender who she knew in passing because he purchases product from her job. Well they talked and she found out he was a pastor and he offered for her to work with him on the weekends. She told him she would help so she began working then he started to pick her up and take her to run arrins and came over to talk about business and stuff he has also giving her books about Love the another book about inspiration. She says she wants to keep him as a friend and that I make it uncomfortable by my smart remarks to work with him or be his friend. She has talked to me and said she wants to remain friends with him even though we are back together am I trippin??

talaniman
May 21, 2008, 11:20 AM
She says she wants to keep him as a friend and that I make it uncomfortable by my smart remarks to work with him or be his friend.

So you have been introduced? Or did I read it wrong.

bushg
May 21, 2008, 11:36 AM
1."Allow"
2. You break up off and on and it's your fault.
Yeah, I'd say you be "trippin"... right out the door and he'll be trippin right in it if you don't straighten your act up. I think you know it. Better treat that woman right or someone else will do it for you.

JBeaucaire
May 21, 2008, 12:44 PM
Go meet him for counseling. Tell him your situation, your girlfriend is accepting inspirational gifts from her boss and you think that it's inappropriate. Ask him how you should deal with it.

When you're done, tell him HE's the boss in the story. Perhaps his advice and his actions will be more real to him at that point.

Perhaps not. At least you'll have a little fun.

Fr_Chuck
May 21, 2008, 02:03 PM
Let me see, as a pastor I give books to couples with problems all the time on what love is, what a relationship is, it is possible him giving her those books is what helped to get you back together.

Also you seem to need to work with a counseler, since terms like "your women" "allow her" and more show a real control issue and other problems