Ive been broken up with my ex girlfriend for about 4 months. With me lingering around on these pages every couple of days its pretty clear to me I am not over her. I don't feel whole without her, however, I haven't been contacting- she has been coming to me abit. Anyway enough of that rubbish-
I'm still confused about her reasoning- and I guess it's a part of me not entirely moving on as I haven't accepted it as a reason.
So people- if you have been dumped-slammed- broken hearted out of nowhere by a girlfriend/boyfriend and their reasoning is

"I havent been single in a long time and want time to myself". T

Ime to myself usually means demise, even a muppet like me knows this, but I know some people who have come out the back end with a happy story- others move on- others never do!

Stories of any kind welcomed- from the dumper was only wanting to get out and sleep around, to the dumper being sincere and possibly returning, to the dumpee making an amazing decision.

I would like to hear what happened because Im bored at work and thinking about her a bit today.
If you had done nothing wrong, honestly done nothing wrong ie- you did your own thing with friends, supportive and everything, but they sincerely want time to themselves I want to hear it- or even if your on the other side of the ledger and ended it because of this very reason. If its meant to be its meant to be etc I know.
Your all keepers in my book. Cheers!

Hi I'm in same situation last Wednesday my GF split with me all she saide is I won't a new life OK since we bean apart I've relised it was partley my falt but I've told her this and my kids have sean a difrence in me I'm allways putting them 1st now not 2nd all the time I just wished she can see but all I get is I've got to do this there is no love there aneymore she still wants to be friends but that is it for the kids sack but I need a new life for mysealf I just don't get it so I've bean told the grass is the same on both sides I'm just hoping that I get a 2nd chance to shoe her I hope you do to

No happy stories here apart from Two people in my family did get back together with previous bf/gf's though after many years apart and yes they are still together many years later.

Best to go NC and keep at it,

The only success story is what you make of it. If you're girlfriend left you, to enjoy and be single, think about how selfish she is to leave you in that manner. That happened to me, and to be honest, it was the best gift my ex could have ever given me. In the past month, I've had a lot of fun being single and it showed me that there is a lot more to life, to which I haven't explored.

Remember, a true success story is what you make of it, not what others say.

I personally know of one couple that broke up for about 1 year then got back together and have been married since (about 3 years now). They were originally together for 7+ years.

For me, my girlfriend of 6 1/2 years broke up with me on 5/3/08 and it's been 100% No Contact between both of us since the breakup. I'm still at the stage where I can't imagine the grass being greener with anyone else. We were each others first big, true love as we met when we were 18 and 17.

16 days into No Contact. No matter what everyone here tells me, my mind can't help but hope she initiates contact down the road to get back together. Even though logic tells me to move on, the wound is just too fresh, so my heart is still clinging to her. Only time, and me focusing on rebuilding my life without her can heal this giant void.

Still, after 6 1/2 years, and considering our breakup was "amicable," I'm hoping that us not being together will give her a change of heart. Sometimes you need something taken away before you realize what you had. Even if she's been "breaking up with me in her head" for the past few months, which most girls do when deciding to end a long term relationship, sometimes it takes the absolute 100% absence of something to shed light on your emotions. For the past 16 days and counting, we are both experiencing for the first time since 2001 what it truly feels like to not have each other in our lives. She may be happier than ever, she may be hurting but doing okay, she may be getting a rebound, who knows and I know I should't even care but I just can't help it.

If we ever do speak again, I want her to initiate contact first, especially since she was the dumper. But I also know I can't eat myself alive with false hope, because she may never come back (most don't). I guess it's obvious that I'm still in shock. I am. 2 weeks later, I still think to myself: "Oh my god, we really broke up... it actually happened." It's so surreal, like I'm in some kind of bad dream. Not only 2 days before the breakup we were snuggling in bed watching a movie and just chilling out, laughing having a great time. I feel like I've been dropped off a cliff; it was so damn sudden and abrupt. If I end up back with her or someone else, I know to cherish every day of love and to never take it for granted. When long term relationships take each other for granted, both partners get "lazy" and the relationship can dwindle right under your nose.

This thread wasn't to induce hope- but its nice to hear some comforting stories. I too wish I had one more day, I don't miss her I don't think- I miss the person I thought she was...