Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for the past two weeks. And he heard from his Health Teacher that the best way to have sex is to have sex with a condom on, come. Come again[oral, or condom] and by the third time you can use no condom but you have to pull out as soon as you feel like you're going to go.

Well we tried it.
It was nice and all, but I can't help but feel that he had pre-cummed inside me, and I didn't take my pill and I'm absolutely horrified. I just finished my period too, so he says I have like 3 days of being infertile, but I'm still scared!

So I have to wait three more weeks to see if I am pregnant, or have these little doubts squashed once and for all.
The second I started thinking that maybe he did go inside me, my stomach has been killing me, and I feel like I have to throw up. I know symptoms aren't supposed to come this early, and that I'm probably just spazzing. But I just got to know, without my parents knowing :(

Should I continue using my pill, would that settle my thoughts of being pregnant? He doesn't seemed phased by it at all because he trusts his health teacher, but if he came, and I'm not on the pill that can equal pregnancy, and he just doesn't get that. What should I do? :confused:

First of all, either your boyfriend wasn't paying much attention in class, or that teacher should be fired.

There is NO such thing as this no condom on the third time thing at all!! Also, IT IS NOT TRUE that you are infertile for 3 days after your period.

NONE OF THIS IS TRUE! The pull out method does not work!

Why are you forgetting to take your pills? You shouldn't be having sex at all really, because you are trusting someone else to give you misinformation. I know you probably think you love him, but how much will you love him when he is off with his friends, while you are taking care of a screaming baby? Trust me, that will happen!

I'm not trying to be mean to you, but you really need to find out more info on sex yourself. Boys will tell girls all sorts of things at your age, to get what they want.

You NEED to tell your parents, and get a home pregnancy test! Cross your fingers and your toes (and anything else you can cross) that it is negative, and then learn more about your body, and how it works. You have been misinformed my dear girl!

If you don't want any babies, DO NOT trust someone else to tell you the truth! Find it out on your own so you are informed!

You probably won't agree with me here, but your best bet is to STOP having SEX until you are old enough and informed!

You know what they call girls who are so gullable like you, mommy!

you know what they call girls who are so gullable like you, mommy!

Dear LOST IN HIS EYEZ,

Please listen to the advice given here OK? You may not think we understand, but we do! Some of us may be older, and some younger, but trust me... we do know what we are talking about OK?! We weren't born in the stone ages, and have all gone through this even though you might not believe it. That is why you need to talk to your parents. They will probably understand more than you can imagine!

We are not trying to say that you are to young to have your "first love", but you have to be responsible, and learn things that you don't yet know. Otherwise, you will end up in a position that you are NOT ready for. If you don't know the facts about getting pregnant, you certainly aren't ready to have a baby!! Babies need a lot of your time, and they cost A lot OF MONEY! You need to have your teen years, have fun, and gain experience!

Go out with your girlfriends! Go to the park, beach,. other activities where you can have fun young love, without giving in to a boy who wants sex.

Dear LOST IN HIS EYES,

Please listen to the advice given here ok? You may not think we understand, but we do! Some of us may be older, and some younger, but trust me...we do know what we are talking about ok?!! We weren't born in the stone ages, and have all gone through this even though you might not believe it. That is why you need to talk to your parents. They will probably understand more than you can imagine!

We are not trying to say that you are to young to have your "first love", but you have to be responsible, and learn things that you don't yet know. Otherwise, you will end up in a position that you are NOT ready for. If you don't know the facts about getting pregnant, you certainly aren't ready to have a baby!!! Babies need alot of your time, and they cost ALOT OF MONEY! You need to have your teen years, have fun, and gain experience!!

Go out with your girlfriends!! Go to the park, beach, ...other activities where you can have fun young love, without giving in to a boy who wants sex.


I totally agree , babies are a lot of work and money not to mention the life long responsibility.
I personally think you and your boyfriend need some more education on this subject, but maybe not from that teacher. If you don't feel comfortable talking to your parents by all means please talk to someone with more experience on this subject, before you make a huge mistake. Of course you can always ask questions on this site and one of us will try to answer your question.

Lsten, you asked for our advice. If you don't like the answers you get here you should maybe look elsewhere. I was not trying to scare you, although a good scare could not hurt you. You are very nieve and I was just trying to open your eyes. Parenthood is often entred into by careless young folks whoo have no basic knowledge of the human annatomy and how it works. Educate yourself. Don't play the fool and repect the advice given as given with the best intentions. Those who you offend maybe the ones you can trust and ones that could offer the info you need.

you know what they call girls who are so gullable like you, mommy!

danielnoahsmommy I didn't agree either with your comment she didn't need to have that kind of support. I understand that she may not be very well educated on the subject that's why she is here asking questions. I do understand you were just trying to tell her truth.

We really are trying to help you hun, whether you believe it or not! You have a lot of wrong info, and you said you don't want to have any babies... which is a good thing at your age.

I commend you for asking for advice! Don't think we are trashing you, or putting you down. That is not the purpose! We are here to help you with your question, and thank you for asking for the advice. You really need to take it into consideration though. You need to get more info on what you are doing,. so you don't get into a situation that could be life changing for you!

Ok, hope your boyfriend does better in the class in summer school. Or yes really they need to fire this teacher,

No, there is no third time charm, there will still be spem in the fluid, not as much, but there will be sperm there.

He is most likely lying to you so he can have sex without a condom, so my opinion he is being a selfish jerk, since it is you that will be left with the babies as he moves on with that story to some other girl.

Also even WITH a condom they are not 100 percent effective and they also break sometimes, so what other methods of birth control are you on, pill, patch, or what.

I will say I agree with the Mommy comment, it is obvious this poor girl needs a wake up call, she has bought the lies this boy has told her hook, line and sinker and she will be a mommy if she don't listen to someone

I do understand about the mommy comment I thought the same but I wouldn't of put it that way that's all. I do understand she needs a wake up call because if she does get pregnant, she'll have a lot more issues then just being miss educated. I think it maturity comes with age and we can clearly see what age this young lady is.

listen, i really am glad you guys are helping. but im not stupid, im 18, and just got into a college with a full scholarship, im smart. just not on the sex subject. i came here for help, and tough love isnt what everyone needs to hear. what i needed was a motherly/fatherly comforting thing, i was never given the sex talk. i understand that its not your job to be my parents,but we're not that close my parents... but i thank you guys anyways. my boyfriend and i decided to refrain from having sex and if he's lucky, we do it maybe once a week. maybe. but i use a condom, and i take my pill everyday. so thanks for everyone who gave me advice, and i'll definately talk to someone in depth about this subject.

Hi,
Is it possible to get your period during pregnancy? I missed my period since January. I and this has never happened before. I had all the symptoms of . My husband is very happy now that we thought I was pregnant. Now in may I just started my period it was very different. Is it possible that I am pregnant? ( I felt movement in my lower abdomen) I know it was not gas. It feels like a wave. Am I pregnant?

Hun, please just go to the library, or get some info on the internet. Please don't trust what someone else tells you, even though you trust your boyfriend. You really do need to find out the info for yourself, and then you know for sure.

No one (well not me) thought you weren't smart... just very misinformed. I know you are smart enough to know that you sure don't need to bring a baby into the world right now. That is pretty smart in my books. Just make sure you are completely protected. A condom isn't enough, and guys your age really can make up stories like the "third time" one. There is NO truth to that at all. A lot of guys will tell stories like that because they don't want to wear a condom, because they think it lessens the sensation. DO NOT believe it!

You are old enough now to be responsible for your own body, so take it into your own hands, like your are doing now by asking, and find out the facts! You were being responsible by asking, but you must take your pill everyday, and you also must use a condom. All boys that age do not tell the truth, and you can't know for sure if he has had sex with someone other than you.

Just inform yourself and be careful, is all I'm saying. :)

Hi,
Is it possible to get your period during pregnacy? I missed my period since january. I and this has never happened before. I had all the symptoms of . My husband is very happy now that we thought i was pregnant. Now in may i just started my period it was very different. Is it possible that i am pregnant? ( i felt movement in my lower abdomen) I know it was not gas. It feels like a wave. Am I pregnant?

Errica dear! Start your own thread with your question. You will get more responses that way. Just go to ask a new question, under the topic.

listen, i really am glad you guys are helping. but im not stupid, im 18, and just got into a college with a full scholarship, im smart. just not on the sex subject. i came here for help, and tough love isnt what everyone needs to hear. what i needed was a motherly/fatherly comforting thing, i was never given the sex talk. i understand that its not your job to be my parents,but we're not that close my parents... but i thank you guys anyways. my boyfriend and i decided to refrain from having sex and if he's lucky, we do it maybe once a week. maybe. but i use a condom, and i take my pill everyday. so thanks for everyone who gave me advice, and i'll definately talk to someone in depth about this subject.


I was going to stay out of it but I can't. LostInHisEYez, do not believe what boys tell you, they will lie to get what they want. The fact is, even with the pill and a condom, you could still get pregnant. No form of birth control is 100% effective, so if you are having sex then you should be ready to be a mom, because it could happen. I realize that you are scared, is there a chance that you're pregnant, yes, there is. Now you have to wait and see, pray to whatever you believe in that you got lucky and then move on and learn.

If you take your pill everyday then you should, that's right should, be okay. If you skipped a pill and had sex without a condom then you could be pregnant. Remember, all it takes is one sperm, just one, and the male body produces upwards of 40 million sperm every time he ejaculates, upwards, that means sometimes more than that. 1 out of 40 million, not good odds.

I hope it works out for you and that this is a learning experience.

Take care and let us know how it goes. Don't worry, it won't change anything, whatever happened has already happened, you just have to wait to find out.

Good luck.

Oh dear. THE BOTH OF YOU NEED AN EDUCATION.

And the teacher-what a friggin nutbag! Sorry but that is just too stupid for words.

listen, i really am glad you guys are helping. but im not stupid, im 18, and just got into a college with a full scholarship, im smart. just not on the sex subject. i came here for help, and tough love isnt what everyone needs to hear. what i needed was a motherly/fatherly comforting thing, i was never given the sex talk. i understand that its not your job to be my parents,but we're not that close my parents... but i thank you guys anyways. my boyfriend and i decided to refrain from having sex and if he's lucky, we do it maybe once a week. maybe. but i use a condom, and i take my pill everyday. so thanks for everyone who gave me advice, and i'll definately talk to someone in depth about this subject.

Hun, you're not stupid, but you are not educated in the sex department at all. I'm sorry to be so harsh, but if you are not ready to be a mother, you should not be having sex. Smart does not always equal common sense. And I don't mean that in a bad way, some of the smartest people in the world don't zip their zippers up. LOL

SEX = BABIES, plain and simple. There are only 2 ways to prevent pregnancy and those are #1 abstinence and #2 steralization and even that fails sometimes.

I suggest you find a road map and find your way out of being "lost in his eyes."