emeraldbear
May 14, 2008, 06:34 AM
Ok, this is a long story. I'm in my early twenties, was in a 3 year relationship that broke up about a year ago, we lived together, it was wonderful until the end. Now, I'm 6 months in with a guy in his late twenties, owns his own home, car, successful job, he's a very nice guy.
So I had to move out of my apartment and the plan was stay with my parents until fall when I'll get a place with my friends (girls and guys.) This is the plan because my guy thinks its too early to move in together. I get it, 6 months isn't a long time. BUT we're going on a vacation together, we've met the folks, we've been through hard times, and we're in love. I practically live at his place anyway, spend every night there (yes, OK its mainly cause my place doesn't have much over-night parking available, he says he'd have stayed there more if there was and when I get a place with my friends he'll sleep there.) I'm just frustrated that he doesn't want to move this forward. Is it always going to be him in power deciding the timing of everything? I don't want it to be that way, but I feel it will be.
So now, I had a fight with my mother and moved all my stuff to his house and I'm going to stay here for a while. My girls are like "ooooh, maybe you'll just stay there." But I don't think so. Others say "don't push him, you're already practically living there, why not just keep it like it is."
I could really use some mature advice. Thanks so much.
So I had to move out of my apartment and the plan was stay with my parents until fall when I'll get a place with my friends (girls and guys.) This is the plan because my guy thinks its too early to move in together. I get it, 6 months isn't a long time. BUT we're going on a vacation together, we've met the folks, we've been through hard times, and we're in love. I practically live at his place anyway, spend every night there (yes, OK its mainly cause my place doesn't have much over-night parking available, he says he'd have stayed there more if there was and when I get a place with my friends he'll sleep there.) I'm just frustrated that he doesn't want to move this forward. Is it always going to be him in power deciding the timing of everything? I don't want it to be that way, but I feel it will be.
So now, I had a fight with my mother and moved all my stuff to his house and I'm going to stay here for a while. My girls are like "ooooh, maybe you'll just stay there." But I don't think so. Others say "don't push him, you're already practically living there, why not just keep it like it is."
I could really use some mature advice. Thanks so much.