I just lost my virginity about three or four days ago, so that's what I'm guessing what it is, but even before we were "Exploring" each other before then [oral, fingers, etc] and I didn't even feel anything then. I read a lot of articles saying that its stimulation of the , and I've tried it- it feels nice, but it doesn't build up. And its kind of starting to worry me. I don't want to be paranoid because I just started having sex, but I don't want to not feel what sex feels like if I can't find out why I can't feel anything. [and its not about size, because my boyfriend is a good size.] I feel it in, but its just kind of numb or a dull feeling. So I'm very lost. If I told my boyfriend that I don't feel anything he would feel hurt as a man, but also betrayed because I didn't even feel anything while we were fooling around, so what do I do? :( :(

You have to learn your body first,

I just lost my virginity about three or four days ago, so thats what im guessing what it is, but even before we were "Exploring" each other before then [oral, fingers, etc] and i didnt even feel anything then. I read a lot of articles saying that its stimulation of the , and i've tried it- it feels nice, but it doesnt build up. and its kinda starting to worry me. i dont want to be paranoid because i just started having sex, but i dont want to not feel what sex feels like if i can't find out why i can't feel anything. [and its not about size, because my boyfriend is a good size.] i feel it in, but its just kinda numb or a dull feeling. so im very lost. if i told my boyfriend that i dont feel anything he would feel hurt as a man, but also betrayed because i didnt even feel anything while we were fooling around, so what do i do?!:( :(
I have been with my boyfriend for 5 1/2 years and I still don't have feeling or ever had an orgasm. Its frusterating as hell and its puttin a strain on our relationship because were not connecting on that level you know. Were going to start trying toys and stuff but I don't know why I haven't felt anything.. im 19 so its kind of confusin... so don't feel bad I'm in the same boat

Hey I hope this helps you out but I am the same as you me and my boyfriend have been having sex and its not working for us either I've been looking stuff up on the internet and its making me understand better but just to let you know your not on your own out there :) and don't feel like you would upset him I told mine and he just made more of an effort to make me feel something

If you don't feel anything at all during sexual foreplay and intercourse, then you don't have passion going on in your head... something else is happening.

Don't keep doing the same thing over and over if it is unsuccessful! Think of an athlete... if an athlete trained the wrong way s/he would never be a winner in his sport.

Best to talk to a therapist right away. You may have a head full of illusions-thus a disconnect for passion and orgiastic sex.

Best wishes in 2008,

Thanks to all you guys, but the problem is that I can masturbate fine-without him there- I shy- but when he tries it, or we have sex its just being poked. And we have the passion because I'm the one who always initiates it, but it just doesn't feel right.

I have been married to my husband for about a year and a half now. He's a fairly big man. Every time we have sex, I don't feel anything. When we fool around, I don't feel anything. Absolutely Nothing. We've tried all the positions, toys, movies... anything we can think of. Even before I met my husband I never had an orgasm (even with masturbation). Out of all the stuff I've Googled, I know this is supposed to be normal... but I don't really think so.