My name is jason... I met this girl named tanya on myspace IM chat room and we have been talking for like a month and she said she loves me and I said I love her... but I have never seen her in person or talked to her on the phone... only on myspace IM... and I live in east Texas and she lives in Utah... I know I love her... I mean I care about her and stuff... but is it possible that I'm IN love with her?? Can you love someone you've never met or talked to on the phone or anything... just IM?? :confused:

No, I don't believe you can. When people have a relationship over the internet they act very differently than when they are face to face. If you say something that upsets her she can just walk away from the computer, likewise for you, when you are face to face it's different. Also, people tend to be a bit dishonest when they don't have to be face to face with someone, I'm not saying she is, or you are, but that's usually the case.

You talked to this girl for a month and you think you're in love? Honey, I think you're just a bit lonely and looking for love, I don't think this is it.

Good Luck.

... I am not lonely... I had a girlfriend but I broke up with her... we are honest about everything... we tell each other everything... she broke up with 2 guys because she wanted me to ask her out... but I don't know if I should... I really do love her though

I'm not saying that your feelings aren't real.

Another alarm, she broke up with two guys because she wanted you to ask her out. You've known this girl 1 month and she's already gone through 2 guys?

No one can tell you what to do or how to feel, but I wouldn't invest your heart to heavily in an interenet romance.

She had been going out with the first guy for like 3 months and the 2nd one begged her to date him!! I feel sorry for the bastard who falls in love with you! You don't know HOW to love... DO YOU!!

I've been married to the most wonderful man for 13 years, we've been together for 18 years and have two wonderful children. Love is the only reason I got married and the reason we are still together today.

If you don't like the answers you get then don't ask the question.

Bottom line, it's your life and you can do what you want. All I did was answer your question and when you didn't get what you wanted out of me you start to insult me, very mature attitude.

Good luck, you're going to need it.

Emo... you will never get or keep a girlfriend if you attack them like you did this person giving you some very good and KIND advice.

Jason,

Don't get angry if you get advice you don't like. It sounds to me like you came here asking a question that you already have an answer for, and wanted someone to agree with you.

If you're not going to listen to advice, that's fine, but don't attack others because you didn't hear what you want.

she had been going out with the first guy for like 3 months and the 2nd one begged her to date him!!!!!!!! i feel sorry for the bastard who falls in love with you!! you dont know HOW to love...DO YOU!?!?

Listen Emo, you asked a question, you got an opinion. That's what we do here! Just because you didn't get the answer you wanted to hear, it was a very kind, and quite frankly honest and logical answer. That gave you no right to go Emo on the person who answered you. Very rude and uncalled for! :rolleyes:

Jason,
How old are you anyway?

15

15

Well then honey, you should really learn some respect. That will certainly come in handy in your future relationships with the girls you "love". There was a reason you were given the advice that was written. The rest of us have also been 15 at one time, and the advice given was very true and only meant to try and help you.

A Simple NO. Has everyone forgotten the basics in Grammer?? GEEZ,, Capital letters and Punctuation sure would be welcomed.

I think that it is possible to be in love with someone you've never met... if you REALLY think you love her... I think you should go for it, and whatever happens, happens! That's life

If you ask me... I say follow your heart. Im not sure how a realationship is going to work a states away... but if you really feeeeeel like its love... dont pass up your chance. But sometimes its just a MAJOR crush! I've confused those for love plently of times... follow your heart... but be careful :)

You can love the idea of a person but if there not actually there you can't really love them

you can love the idea of a person but if there not actualy there you can't realy love them

That was a very true answer. You cannot "love" someone in the true sense of the word, just by typing things back and fourth, and never even talking in person and meeting each other. I know a month seems like a really long time when you're young, and trust me, that month will seem twice as long when you break up too!


Real love takes a lot of time, understanding, face to face communication, and maturity. I think the kind of love that we are talking about here is puppy love. Hey, I'm not knocking it! Puppy love is one of the best times in life! You have to go through that to understand the heartbreaks and the feelings that you go through in order to appreciate when the real thing comes along.

What you feel might me just a friendship care or the love your asking about. But to idntify it among the two ;you have to know yourslef and what your expectaions from someone you love are... try to think with lots of WHAT IFS' and if all the answer for every one of them is 'I REALLY DON'T CARE COZ I LOVE HER' then you are in love with her.

My answer might sound rude-ish:

Ohhhhhhhhhh NO

Is that a serious question?
Honey, that's not love.
You don't even know her.
You've never met.
Never heard her voice, or seen her face
Or kissed her or even TOUCHED her,

Love?


Uhhhh, I think NOT.


Love is better.

I would like to add Jason, that what you are in love with, is the feeling of being in love. "She" is a figment of your imagination. I know you probably won't believe us that answered you the way you didn't like, and do what you want anyway. But, for all you know, the love of your life could be an 80 yr old man!

Well you might be, but internet dating is dangerous. This girl might be trying to be someone who she is not.

I agree with almost all replies... Some were positive and others negative... at least you should be careful.

I don't know,love is shown in different ways, sometimes it's another type of love. She probably feels like she can trust and relate to you a lot, that's why she claims to have such strong feeings for you. But over IM you honestly can't tell if your in love with her, you don't know her in person. But you also could... don't get me wrong... you might be feeling love that is at it's start but won't yet blossom until the future. Love is rare if you find the real thing, that's why there are so many relationship troubles.. nobody really knows if they are in love. They just get to know a person and grow from there. You never really know. You might just feel for her in her situations. She could be everything you don't expect her to be. For all you know she could be a man, not that she is. Don't sweat it. If this girl is one you know your REALLY in love with it will show over time and when you actually do meet in person ( if that ever happens ). But I honestly don't think a month of knowing someone will be a long enough time to tell if your in love with someone... well for real I mean. I just hope you know what your doing and you take what I say in concideration. Good luck.

In order to fall in love, some face to face person to person contact is requird. If you care about her a lot give her you cell number and asker to call (tha way you can find out she;s not a guy or a perfert or something nasty) and once you know she's a girl go visit with her maybe it will work