I've been married to my husband for 12years now. At first I had no problem with my orgasims but now it's hard to get one. I have to force myself to have an orgasm when having sex with my husband. We have tried different things and it's just not working.

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Can you get off orally? Can you still get off with self stim? What has seemed to change? Is he taking time to sensitize you?

Not much info... please update.

Do you have buried resentments against him?

Im no expert, but things get boring with me and my lady friend from time to time. What really helps is complete spur of the moment surprise. Even if you're not into it surprise your husband and he may be so into it that you'll get sucked in. Drag him into the shower in the morning and be late for work :D. Or you could not see each other for two weeks. Just some suggestions.