I am wondering if someone could help me. My boyfriend broke up with me on the 16th of April. Its Tuesday, I haven't talked to him since Sunday. He hasn't called :( and I have not tried to contact him either. It has been so hard.

I loved him with all my heart, but he didn't, I know I am not supposed to ask him but I did and he said he didn't love me. We started dating about December, he didn't have time to move on with his ex that he just broke up and before we were just in it to help each other out. But later we realized we have somehting good and we started dating. We spent all of spring break together about two weeks ago in cozumel, and It was magical to me. But for him it was just a vacation :( . I asked him if he felt any different when we got back, he told me, I felt good before the trip, felt good at the trip and still feel good. I was so sad, I became so much closer and he stayed the same. I have this problem where if I don't see him I get sad, and he hated that I was dependent on him, I was just in love!! I messed up this relationship I think, by saying I love you too early and being smothering. But I gave him everything with the goodness of my heart. He didn't even appreciate it. Now my crazy ex bothered him after seeing a picture of us on Facebook.

The reasons he gave me for breaking my heart was its not the right time, does this mean will there ever be?? Also he said, my past bothers his safety, my dependability on him and how he doesn't feel the same way and also next fall we are going to be separated due to school for a year.

He did say during our relationship that we are feeling each other out, but I wanted more I guess :( .

Could someone help me, I have been reading threads and what I need to do now is leave him alone and not call him, but it is SO SO HARD, what when we leave in three weeks I will never see or talk to him again? HELP!

You're right, this is going to be hard. In every relationship one person loves more than the other, and it's clear in this case that is you. You're going to have to just give yourself the time necessary.

I think your best bet here is to be a believer. Believe that what you felt was real... because it was. Believe he liked you, because he did. Believe your feelings were way too ramped up and you came on way too strong, because I'm sure you did. There's nothing you can do about the way you've behaved, so just trust you were at least honest about it. That has to be OK in the end.

Believe him when he says timing just isn't right for you two, because it clearly isn't.

He didn't say anything about the future, so for you to try and "interpret" a meaning for the future is you just hurting yourself needlessly. Believe him when he says you two are done, because you are. The same as if YOU had broken up with him and given any reason at all, you would want him to believe you and move on.

Make sure you take the lessons from this into your next dating adventure. Love is easy for you, so you have to keep in mind that dating isn't about "love", it's about discovering compatibility. All it takes is for one of you to uncover some serious incompatibility and you're done. And you should be, that's what dating is for.

So don't give yourself more credit than you deserve since loving comes so easy to you. That's no great accomplishment for you. No, for you, practicing patience, self-reliance, and non-rushed behavior as you give your guy(s) time to catch up in the love department, that would be a success for you next time.