When I was in 8th grade I realized I had feelings for one of my guy friends. Not a close friend but a simple crush nothing more. And he liked me too. But then this girl all of a sudden started crushing on him and then he liked her and then that was it they were going out and me and him were nothing. Now I am not all into feelings and I no one every really knows how I feel so I said whatever and that was it. We stayed friends and when him and her broke up me and him still talked of course. After 8th grade we both went to the same high school and stayed friends. Up until februray of our freshman year we were buds and then my mom and I got into a huge fight and she kicked me out so I had to move in with my dad in a new town and new school. It was horrible I felt dead inside. We got into the huge fight on a Thursday and my last day of school was a Monday so no one really knew I was leaving except for the kids in my classes and friends at lunch. I didn't have time to tell him I was leaving and then I got a missed call on my phone after school. It was from him saying" oh my god your moving?!? your'e Leaving?!?! How can I do this without you?!? Im going to miss you.." and so on. Its was heart breaking. We stayed in contact as much as we could. He called sometimes we would text it was like distant friends. I went to my old schools football games on Friday nights and he would be there and we would sit and be with each other until one of us has to leave. On St.Patricks day we went farther than kissing but no sex and he was the only guy I had ever done more than kissing. After St.Patricks day we didn't talk for a while until one night he called me saying hi. It was random but we talked for literally five minutes until his mom picked him up. Later that week he left me a message saying through everything we have been through he thinks he's in love with me. I felt the same. But I did'nt say it back I told him how sweet it was and we need to hang out more so we can be with each other. We hung out and madeout all summer long and led partly into out sophomore year and more football games and stuff.
Until recently we haven't talked then I found out he had a girlfriend. I texted him saying hi and he told me about her which is good because it shows he wasn't hiding her from me. I told him we should hang and he agreed. He later texted me asking if I was expecting anything and I said No I wasn't planning on anything and he said OK I told him we will just do what we do and replyed saying we couldn't do what we do meaning we won't be kissing or anything. He told me he is in love with this new girl hardcore. And we are friends, old friends. I feel broken and jealous and will do almost anything to have him. He is amazing and I hate his new girlfriend and I've never met her. She is so lucky and she doesn't even know it.
me and him are sophmores and known each other since 5th grade and she is a freakin freshman baby.

I'm so angry at the world and so lost without him.
what to do?

I want to break them up but I love him so much I would rather me be miserable and let him be happy with her then break them up and have him even be slightly sad.

:(

I think it would be best if you avoid him because it will only add to the jealousy and hurt.
Explain to him you love him too much to see him since he has somebody else it would crush you to see him. Then tell him if he ever breaks up with her give you a call.
Seeing him will only create problems.

But if he loves her as much as he says he does then they might be together for a long time and I'd rather not have in my life relationship wise then not at all he means too much to me. When he said we should hang out I even suggested him to bring her but he said that would be weird and he did'nt want her there with me...

And yet I wouldn't want her there either because as horrible as this sounds if it were me him and her I would be hoping she would fall flat on her face with every step she took.

I love him so much I would rather me be miserable and let him be happy
What a noble sentiment. How about backing off, and spending some YOU time, and enjoying yourself. I think you've thought enough of him for a while, and may be missing something close to you. Nothing wrong with loving yourself, and being happy with who you are, and its just what you need.

When you are in High school you think it is love and you think it is going to last for forever but most often it doesn't so all you can do is live your life and if he becomes available and you haven't found somebody else then take your 'turn' with him.

What a noble sentiment. How about backing off, and spending some YOU time, and enjoying yourself. I think you've thought enough of him for a while, and may be missing something close to you. Nothing wrong with loving yourself, and being happy with who you are, and its just what you need.


I'm not all over him so I don't need to back off him and I have plenty of me time I'm alone 99% of the time and ii don't hate myself I don't see how I need to love myself more when that's not the issue

Well I think if he reli loves her just let him be. It hurts but your still young. There are more guys you can look for. Trust me you don't want to be with just 1 guy. You will never know if I guy is good or not if your only with 1 guy all your life. I had your problem. In the end my girlfriend loved another guy. It hurts but I have to move on. Now I super free. Can practice shuffle and stuff. Just don't do anything tat you might regret

I'm not all over him so I don't need to back off him and I have plenty of me time I'm alone 99%

How about emotionally. To get over some one you have to detach from having all those good times, and intense feelings, running through your head all the time stirring up those old desires, usually we detach physically, and that helps us cope emotionally. It only takes a phone call, or text message to set those feelings loose in us and then its even harder to move on. Balancing our lives with friends and activities helps us cope with the pain and helps us move on.

I don't see how I need to love myself more when that's not the issue
That is the whole issue, seeing what needs to be done, and doing it for yourself, and your own emotional health. Even if it means letting go, and filling the hole in your soul, with other things.

Click on the links in my signature, for some good suggests on coping with the feelings after the loss of a relationship.

I wish I didn't have to get over him.

i wish i didnt have to get over him.
Hey I know its hard. But he likes someone else. You can't force him to like u. You could find someone better in the future. You might think tat you won't but your still young. Still got a long way to go. Good luck!

They say Ronald Reagan (an ex pres and movie star) thought he would never get over his first love but after he met Nancy she was the love of his life!

Well.
I am happy for him.
I have always been happy for him.

I just hated he was'nt happy with me.

I'll let him love [[not that I have a choice]]
And hope one day he will love me.

But it's OK.
Im young ill let life take its course.

Glad to hear your trying to get over it. =) just remember got a lot more guys out there. Good luck in finding him! Haha

Hey you should always understand that if you have feelings toward somebody but he doesn't just take him out of your dictionary like no tomorrow, and always put in your mined that you can find a better person.

He may be keeping you in mind for a booty call. Remember how he is doing you now, and tell him to call someone else. Ha ha . Hey, remember what Forrest said, " Life is like a box of chocholates".

Yeah.
I am OK.

I have friends and school to look forward to it's a soliod right now.

I'm OK... I'll be OK.
=]
Keep it Riele.