View Full Version : I like him and he likes me, so why won't he ask me out?
megmeg13
Apr 6, 2008, 11:31 AM
I like this guy and he likes me. He has told me so, and I have been dropping hints to him, but he has yet to ask me out. I don't like it when a girl asks out a guy. If anyone can give me some advice on how to flirt with him, or how to get him to ask me out, it would be greatly appreciated.
softbalgrl1331
Apr 7, 2008, 03:40 PM
My suggestion is to just tell him how you feel! If he had enough guts to tell you he likes you- than it'll be even easier for him to ask you out once he finally knows for sure that you like him back. He is probably oblivious to the suggestive hints and such because he is so focused on trying to figure out if you like him! Also, don't draw back from the idea of telling him how you feel- telling him you like him is not the same as asking him out.
ISneezeFunny
Apr 7, 2008, 03:55 PM
Perhaps he's scared... nervous... not sure if you'll say YES..
Simple Asian
Apr 7, 2008, 05:49 PM
Tell him straight up that you like him.. but you not ask him out...
Like " you no I like you right ? So why you not moving ? Don't you like me ?
It might come a little bit strong but it one way or the other
talaniman
Apr 7, 2008, 06:10 PM
Maybe there is a good reason he doesn't ask you out, could be he has never done it before, and has no clue. You don't have to ask him out, but you could make suggestions. Don't let either of your personal shortcomings, spoil things. You do like each other after all.
ampersandra
Apr 7, 2008, 07:07 PM
Here's another idea, why not just ask him to hang out with you as friends? You don't really need to ask him for a formal date. I've personally never had a real date before and I'm in my mid-twenties! Catch a movie after work/school, have a casual lunch together, ask him if he could help you with homework at his/your place if you're both in school. Relax and be playful. If a relationship does develop, all the better. If not, at least you'll have earned a good friend for your efforts.
N0help4u
Apr 7, 2008, 07:39 PM
I am in my 50's and can't really say I had a REAL date either. I am more the hang out with friends type. Besides asking him to hang out if there is something coming up (a school event, movies, etc... ) that you plan on going to you could tell him you are going and it would be nice if he could go too.
the_gentleman
Apr 8, 2008, 09:08 AM
Ok, this is coming from a guy that has the same problems your guy is having... Like someone said previously, he is so busy trying to figure you out that he is not taking the hints. He might be afraid of rejection, like most nice guys, so you have to put yourself on the line and make the move. I know that its not very chivorous, but sometimes we just need that little push. Don't worry, you won't make him feel less like a man. If anything he will be grateful from having the worries about if you like him or not. Just go for it. If you really want to knock him off his feet, give him a peck on the lips, at the right time though. Hopefully I helped you and by seeing that females have the same problem as us nice guys, it has helped me. Thanks
liz28
Apr 8, 2008, 05:10 PM
There nothing wrong with asking a guy out, that how I got my b/f. Now a day if u want someone let them know and don't be afraid of the word no but you should ask him if he likes you and if he says yes then ask why he never asked you up.
Ayuda76
Apr 15, 2009, 08:05 PM
I was in the same situation... so I told him how I felt. The response was that he didn't want a relationship. Just saying that is a possible response. If he realizes you want more than he is willing to give, than he won't ask you out, even if he likes you and wants to continue being in your life.
victoriabd
Apr 16, 2009, 01:36 PM
After 13 years of marriage I have finally come to the realization that has been staring me in the face for soooo many years. MEN DON'T TAKE HINTS! Have you ever seen a man hint to another man? No they just say it. Don't wait on him to get your "hint"
You don't have to ask him for a date just ask him to do something with you, NOT a night. Maybe just go with you to meet some friends that are doing____ what ever.
miss grumpy
Apr 16, 2009, 07:30 PM
Try hanging out with him a lot and treating him like he is your best friend. Ex... act like your used to him and you aren't shy around him ukno. If he is shy then make him unshy...
simplyasian12
Aug 20, 2009, 09:31 AM
Trust me I'm in the same situation now he knows I like him and he told me that he really likes me.. why won't he ask me out... I don't know. He told me he likes this other girl too and is trying to decide which one to pick but I'm about to tell him if I have to be tought about before he asks me out then he's not worth it. In your situation I would say - you know I like you right? (wait for reply) then why won't you aask me on a date or something its not hard if you don't want to then tell me I would like to be friends-
simplyasian23
Aug 20, 2009, 09:33 AM
Trust me I'm in the same situation now he knows I like him and he told me that he really likes me.. why won't he ask me out... I don't know. He told me he likes this other girl too and is trying to decide which one to pick but I'm about to tell him if I have to be tought about before he asks me out then he's not worth it. In your situation I would say - you know I like you right? (wait for reply) then why won't you aask me on a date or something its not hard if you don't want to then tell me I would like to be friends-