View Full Version : Being friends with an ex
Psyche90
Apr 6, 2008, 12:56 AM
So there's this guy I dated about 2 years ago. We actually went out twice but for VERY short times and I always got cold feet and broke up with him. I thought I was over him, but I feel like I will never be over him until I actually have a relationship with him.
A few months ago I told him everything about the past so I could try and get over him or pursue my feelings for him and also just to explain myself. He told me he really appreciated that I told him everything but doesn't have the same feelings for me and he wants to be friends.
We used to be really close, now we never talk. I think he might think that I will fall for him again if we are friends... could that be it? Or is he just over the whole idea of friends...
I still wish I could go back and see what a relationship would have been like. I don't know what to dooooo. :[
tickle
Apr 6, 2008, 04:29 AM
You don't have to do anything. He told you he doesn't have the same feelings for you and just wants to be friends. Just be friends. Its much easier and less stressful then having a relationship anyway.
talaniman
Apr 6, 2008, 05:42 AM
but doesn't have the same feelings for me and he wants to be friends.
There is nothing to do, but move on. What kind of friends are you thinking about?
Psyche90
Apr 6, 2008, 07:04 PM
I do want to be friends and it's hard because we used to be such good friends. I don't know how to get the friendship back or if he even wants to be friends.
I'm not sure what you mean by "what kind of friends"...
Thanks for the advice.
friend4u178
Apr 6, 2008, 08:52 PM
So there's this guy I dated about 2 years ago. We actually went out twice but for VERY short times and I always got cold feet and broke up with him.
Well he probably got hurt when you broke up with him , both times , why would he want to go back to possibly get hurt again.
I thought I was over him, but I feel like I will never be over him until I actually have a relationship with him..
So you want to get into a Relationship with him so you can get over him?? Sorry but that sounds a bit selfish.
A few months ago I told him everything about the past so I could try and get over him or pursue my feelings for him and also just to explain myself. He told me he really appreciated that I told him everything but doesn't have the same feelings for me and he wants to be friends.
So sounds to me he has moved on and doesn't want to get hurt again.
We used to be really close, now we never talk. I think he might think that I will fall for him again if we are friends... could that be it? or is he just over the whole idea of friends....
I still wish I could go back and see what a relationship would have been like. I don't know what to dooooo. :[
I think you should do what he has done and move on , you can still be friends without having to see each other all the time. But maybe he is hurting from the past and doesn't really want to interact as much with you because he still has feelings..
Just my opinion.
Psyche90
Apr 10, 2008, 12:16 AM
I guess it is selfish and I don't want to hurt him again. I guess I'll just see what happens and hope that we'll be better friends.
Thanks for your opinions!