Hello. Being get aroused by my BF and before sex I get very wet, I mean my vagina becomes too wet. And my BF does not like it. As he comes up to me he shrinks from my vagina as it is wet. Why is it so? And how to do it less wet?:(

You tell him that next time you have sex, you want him less aroused, so that he is less hard.

Being wet is the female equivalent of having an erection--the wetter you are, the more turned on you are.

Tell him to get over himself (and probably tell him to stop masturbating, since that's can make a man desensitized) and to enjoy that you get that turned on.

I'll second that. I've known women that have gotten so wet when turned on it actually ran down their leg. He should be thankfull she doesn't have a dryness problem. Use a towel under you to save the bed sheets and tell him to get over it or you will find a new guy.

You have a boyfriend who is a fierce masturbator... really tight fisted and fast. :(

*He* has a real problem now because a normal female, all turned on and moist, a real velvet underground, doesn't give him sensation.

He can use some counselling from a good man about *adult* sexuality... all the different feelings involved, physical and emotional, and why it is good to have a *partner*!!


Never blame yourself in your relationships with men, girl. :):):)

To me there is no such thing as to wet. It is the best feeling in the world to me. To know that I got my fiancée that turned on is great. I don't know what else to say I never heard of such a thing. I assume he does not go down on you :( You don't want to make it less wet cause you are going to be in for a rough time and so will he. I am blown away by this question!

If your boyfriend is disturbed by your "over" moistness ask him if he would rather you be dry and he can try and get you wet.

And if he says he would rather you be too dry then too wet then keep sex from him and let him know what dry really is.

Be strong girl.
Good things are near.

and if he says he would rather you be too dry then too wet then keep sex from him and let him know what dry really is.


LMAO, what a perfect answer.

Hello. Being get aroused by my BF and before sex I get very wet, I mean my vagina becomes too wet. and my BF does not like it. As he comes up to me he shrinks from my vagina as it is wet. Why is it so? And how to do it less wet?:(
I think that you might get to horny cause you know you are ging to have sex.

This guy needs a lesson on women. Too wet, there's not such thing honey. Tell him to get over it or you will get over him. Good Luck.

Once again-oh brother... time to find another partner..

... spoiled bastard.

Actually, there are plenty of gorgeous women who feel dry, tight and "perfect." These women live on porn screens and are connected, through a mind link, to his hand.

Real women get wet. Does he prefer fake ones?

Hello. Being get aroused by my BF and before sex I get very wet, I mean my vagina becomes too wet. and my BF does not like it. As he comes up to me he shrinks from my vagina as it is wet. Why is it so? And how to do it less wet?:(


I have the same problem (that's how my husband made me feel... as a problem) and we barely had intercourse over the past 20 years because I was to wet and he couldn't feel anything so he couldn't keep an erection!
Well 6 years ago I was so frustrated that I had an affair... to my surprise I learned that there is no such thing as too wet... its an equivalent of a "hard on" to a man.. If you enjoy a healthy sex life... leave this man.. his way of excusing is ineptness is by assigning blame and putting you down..
I felt that I wasted 20 years of my prime and finally filed for divorce.. and now feel liberated!! The only regrets I have is how to make up 20 years of "drought"!

I think he needs to grow up. And , in my opinion, there can be a situation where it's "too wet". When you and your partner are going at it and it sounds like a washing machine,, now that is too wet for me!!

I have the same problem (that's how my husband made me feel... as a problem) and we barely had intercourse over the past 20 years because I was to wet and he couldn't feel anything so he couldn't keep an erection!!
Well 6 years ago I was soo frustrated that I had an affair... to my surprise I learned that there is no such thing as too wet... its an equivalent of a "hard on" to a man.. If you enjoy a healthy sex life... leave this man .. his way of excusing is ineptness is by assigning blame and putting you down..
I felt that I wasted 20 years of my prime and finally filed for divorce.. and now feel liberated!!! The only regrets I have is how to make up 20 years of "drought"!!

And I bet you have far longer than a 3-5 minute session as well.

Dry tight women might feel a bit more but unless your objective it to get in, get off, get out as quickly as possible the losser wetter woman is better.

Personally I'd preffer a hour or two hour session to a five minute one myself.

Honey there is no such thing as too wet. I was speaking to a guy and he said that his girlfriend is the same way and he does not like it. But he says that goes to show how much his woman wants him so he is unperturbed. He says he enjoys her anyway

Well I totally disagree with everyone else! You CAN get too wet. Intercourse is almost impossible with me because I am sooooooo wet that a penis can't even stay in my vagina. It just constantly slides out. I have tried keeping tissues around and trying to soak all the wetness over and over, but it just keeps coming back. I really want to ask a doctor about it, but it's sooooo embarrassing! Believe me, this is a REAL issue and I can'T even tell you how bad it sucks! I can barely feel anything and either can the guy. It's just like a pool of water! UGH!!

Young guys don't know anatomy that well...

And young girls wait around when they are being degraded because their self-esteem
Is still being formed.

My advice: talk about it and how it is 100% normal... and if he still rejects you - walk away.

As always - use protection and focus on school and career FIRST... SEX is no substitute for a future you control.

If you don't mind me asking but how old is your boyfriend? It sounds like he doesn't have a clue! We are designed to get horny, we are designed to get wet so that there isn't too much friction and men are designed to get turned on that we're turned on! If he seriously has an issue with it then you are with the wrong guy honey, and possibly he is with the wrong gender!

Good news - it's HIS problem....not YOURS.


I have to laugh because ANY male that is not a kid that reads a topic headline "Wet Vagina"
Would go... : "Sounds hot!"

If Your Bf Not Like Wet Vagina
Find Another Partner!!

You could bring a sterile dry cloth to bed with you to pat down your wetness just prior to intimacy. I can't imagine someone really having to go to such extremes for something so normal. But it is an answer to your question. Good luck!
PS, I don't think a doctor is going to help here, contrary to "rapper's" opinion.

Intercourse is almost impossible with me because I am sooooooo wet that a penis can't even stay in my vagina.
Must not be hard enough to start with. In any case put it back in.

I have to laugh because ANY male that is not a kid that reads a topic headline "Wet Vagina"
Would go... : "Sounds hot!"
Sounds hot, but real men know what to do with a wet one.

Thanks for your advice!! :)

I've avoided this one since the OP hadn't been back until today.

Might take some flack for this one, since it goes against popular opinion...

I dated a girl who was almost "too wet" for me sometimes. Notice I said "for me"... I don't like a lot of friction, but some, and I don't want to think I'm tearing up my lover... but I've had sex in water and as good as it can feel at first, some sensation gets lost quickly. So I dated a girl who was so naturally lubed that there was less friction and less sensation than id noticed with other lovers.

So... what to do? Find a new position. There are a number of positions that can change the feeling... for ex, woman on the bed, on her right side, man coming in from either a kneeling position (so his unit is penetrating at a 90 degree angle from "normal") or he also can be laying on the bed, either facing her but pulled away or in the oppisite direction. The woman squeezing her legs together can create more "grip" or pressure and the angle at which he enters can feel different for him and her... and she can self stimulate... if she likes pressure at the perinium, he can apply this with a wet finger.

And there's others too...

I understand the aim to let her know that good lubrication is mostly a great thing. That she's not broken. I agree completely.

I also believe sometimes you have to work with what feels best for you. If the positions he's trying aren't working out for him, instead of blaming her he should be trying other positions that satiate them both.

A woman can be very wet, just as a woman can be very dry, even with proper foreplay and mental state. A lover who thows up his hands and says "its your fault" is too quick to blame and not very innovative or interested in finding middle ground.

Altenweg agrees: And once again my husband's at work. Thanks KP ;)
Isn't that when I'm supposed to ring? ;)

Have a great weekend.

A very wet vagina is an absolute turn-on! It sure beats trying all you have for some unfortunates who fall into the 'dry category. I did have one 19 year old who got so wet and was 'known to get so wet that know one else had seen it before as it literally
Dripped down her leg before sex (after a ton of foreplay) ----but, she knew what to do as did the others and I am lucky! Some rubbed the extra all over my body. To remind me of how turned on one girl was, she herself reached down and rubbed some across my face and mouth... Also, I had a 7 year relationship with a woman who had ejaculatory orgasms especially during pregnancy and I must admit that while one might need to prepare beforehand after experiencing a number of the same experiences, AS A MAN: How do you think I felt to bring such tight and powerful gushing orgasms to the women I cared for? I loved it! Use your extra vaginal lubricant as a sexual turn on to your man (or woman) and after all, WHAT IS BETTER THAN CLEAN but KINKY-BOTH SATISFIED AND WILLING MESSY SEX? Sure, there isn't always time for a long time love making sessions but when a chance comes about, let the wonderful healthy smells and fluids and dreams flow freely so as long as both are on the same page!
OFF TOPIC LOL!: I have more of a hard time with larger women as I'm a 34 year old male of above average size (modestly) but only 5"10' tall and 140lbs and the only trouble I have had is feeling like I was doing my full part in making love to a slightly bigger beauty... I have been with woman from 98 lbs to 180 and I have nothing bad to say about any size! In fact, some of the best foreplay, kissing, wetness and turnon's have been with a slightly bigger partner... I just cannot manipulate them as easily and I'm not weak muscular lol! Anyway, wetness is the biggest turn on! Sex isn't suppose to be clean and quick... explore and you will find the most sexiest of places and things to do to each other so as long as your minds are equal.

Question 2: I hear of men who produce some lubrication... I might before stopping an orgasm produce some drops but do some men constantly lube like a woman?
Thanks
Yeah, woman: ride your man like a horse and smear that lovely wetness and sexual smell all over his body... there is never too much, just too much laziness!

OR woman: I don't or won't ever claim to have all the answers... always be humble and I'm looking for the next long term or honest friend and sexual partner to discover new heights! TAN! LOL--not a swinger... you just all reminded me of things past.

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