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sssmith777
Mar 24, 2008, 04:58 PM
All right well I had been going out with my girl for about 8 months and she said she wanted a break. We don't live that close to each other but that was never a big problem. I love her very much and I she constantly reminds me the same thing. But you might know what I mean she started hanging out with a new friend then treated me in a different way you know? And she also started hanging out with one of her ex- boyfriends again. He was causing her a lot of stress and she thought if she was nice to him for a change he would not cause her more stress than she already has. So she did and always with other people and assured me nothing was going on and I know nothing did. But we hadn't talked much for a few days but she had just told me how much she loved me the night before and she said she needed a break. I thought it was for another guy but she even got mad when I asked that. She said JUST A BREAK. So I said I would wait for her. She said I could go out with other girls she didn't want me to have to be alone. I said no that's not right. But she decided to go out with her ex again cause he was like begging her after we started the break. She promised me nothing would happen between them and everything but I don't know.. and then a few days later we talked and she said it was not making things easier and she missed me a lot and still wanted to be with me forever... but not go back out yet... she said she needed time for school... but I know she's going out with that other guy now... its not the same as we were together of anything but she still is. So I don't know what I should do. I'm going to go out with other girls probably but I don't know if I she go back to her after. I sort of feel like I'm just going to be a fall back guy if he doesn't work out.she assures me she didn't leave me to go out with him and she still wears a bracelet and necklace that's something between us and still won't take off. But I think it all just might be bull. What do you think?

COOKIE MONSTER
Mar 24, 2008, 05:29 PM
Hun she's moved on don't waste time waiting for something that might not come back to you,because while your waiting the one could pass you by.
I worn anecklace that myeldest sons dad got me 3years ago or more until about amonth ago[id had relationships before I met myboyfriend but not like this one so I didn't take it off] myboyfriend asked me why id taken it off so I told him he wasn't mad but I didn't think it was right to wear it when myx had given it to me and because I love myboyfriend.but also before I met myboyfriend I just liked it,it wasn't because mysons dad got it for me I just liked it so just because she is still wearing the things you got her doesn't mean she's going to come back she could just like it .

Start the no contact rule that means- no texes -no emails- no call -no meeting
Move on hun because if you do take her back after she's been with another guy she will think its OK to go and do it again because you pratically gave her permission by taking her back

JBeaucaire
Mar 24, 2008, 06:07 PM
CM is right. Nothing she's said matters, what she has done is pretty clear.

She likes you, but not enough to date you exclusively anymore.

She wanted a break so SHE could date others, not so you could. Whether you do or not is probably the least of her worries.

She's back with her ex because she likes him, too, as much if not more than you and your relationship hasn't progressed to the point that she is able to ignore her old feelings.

This is all critically important information. If you ignore it and keep after her you are choosing misery for yourself and it can totally be avoided.

She's made it clear where you stand, though she has soft-pedaled every step of the way. Don't let that cripple you. Make a solid choice for you and have a great next relationship. She's an ex now, the sooner you accept that the better.

COOKIE MONSTER
Mar 24, 2008, 06:17 PM
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She's made it clear where you stand, though she has soft-pedaled every step of the way. Don't let that cripple you. Make a solid choice for you and have a great next relationship. She's an ex now, the sooner you accept that the better.

YEP I AGREE!! [cant agree in commet box I've agreed too much with you JB]