I am currently in a long distance relationship, I've known him for about one year already we met off myspace we were friends before we were lovers... we chatted online and text each other for about 4 months before meeting each other in person and another 3 months after that before being intimate with each other, he lives about one hour away from me and back in November of 2007 we decided to see if a serious relationship would work out between us because at that time we really cared a lot for one another, It seems that this commitment is harder then we thought it would be, because we both have children and an everyday busy life the most we see each other is about once a week or at the worst once every other week. What's even harder is that we don't chat online anymore it just got old, the most we talk over the phone is about once a week because he was never the type of person to talk over the phone he's more talkative in person so the way we communicate daily is by text.

So the problem now is that it seems texting is getting a little old too but not on my part it seems to be on his part, he doesn't text me as much anymore and when I text him he doesn't answer my text till like 3-4 hours later, he does tell me that he loves me and misses me from time to time, I do know that I'm in love with him and yes I know that he tells me he loves me but I don't think that he is in love with me! He has talked about having a future with me a few times before but with saying that he's also said he doesn't know if it's going to work between the both of us, and then other times he says he doesn't want to lose me. I've brought up the fact that maybe we should start seeing other people and even on an intimate level just to see if it is meant to be between the both of us but he has told me he doesn't want that.

I just don't know what to do anymore, I keep getting so many mixed signals from him time to time he doesn't know what to do himself I can't even get a strait answer from him when it comes to our relationship.

What should I do, Should I stay involved with him just to see what the outcome maybe or should I just let him go even though I love him? It's just so hard being that I barely see him let alone barely talk to him, I think I would be able to deal with this whole thing better if I talked with him daily but I don't!

HELP WHAT SHOULD I DO I'M CONFUSED! :confused:

I am currently in a long distance relationship, I've known him for about one year already we met off of myspace we were friends before we were lovers... we chatted online and text each other for about 4 months before meeting each other in person and another 3 months after that before being intimate with each other, he lives about one hour away from me and back in November of 2007 we decided to see if a serious relationship would work out between us because at that time we really cared a lot for one another, It seems that this commitment is harder then we thought it would be, because we both have children and an everyday busy life the most we see each other is about once a week or at the worst once every other week. What's even harder is that we don't chat online anymore it just got old, the most we talk over the phone is about once a week because he was never the type of person to talk over the phone he's more talkative in person so the way we communicate daily is by text.

So the problem now is that it seems texting is getting a lil old too but not on my part it seems to be on his part, he doesn't text me as much anymore and when I text him he doesn't answer my text till like 3-4 hours later, he does tell me that he loves me and misses me from time to time, I do know that I'm in love with him and yes I know that he tells me he loves me but I don't think that he is in love with me! he has talked about having a future with me a few times before but with saying that he's also said he doesn't know if it's gonna work between the both of us, and then other times he says he doesn't wanna lose me. I've brought up the fact that maybe we should start seeing other people and even on an intimate level just to see if it is meant to be between the both of us but he has told me he doesn't want that.

I just don't know what to do anymore, I keep getting soo many mixed signals from him time to time he doesn't know what to do himself I can't even get a strait answer from him when it comes to our relationship.

What should I do, Should I stay involved with him just to see what the outcome maybe or should I just let him go even though I love him? It's just so hard being that I barely see him let alone barely talk to him, I think I would be able to deal with this whole thing better if I talked with him daily but I don't!

HELP WHAT SHOULD I DO I'M CONFUSED!!:confused:

Relationships are hard as it is, and when dealing with long distance relationship can be challenging as well, Its not impossible with the many technologies that is at our fingertips, but the reality is that you barely see him or talk to him? Communication is essential in a relationship. Here is my suggestion to you in the end its your decision, only you know what you want. Do you want to continue this long-distance with a relationship with someone you barely talk to? He is telling you so many different things leaving you confused, you can't get an answer from him about where this relationship is going, bad enough you are far away, there could at least be some healthy communication but there isn't.

Long distance relationships can work for some people, and it takes a lot of hard work and dedication from both parties, but once the communication ceases or fade it can become very stressful.

In the end, I suggest you go with your intuition, and what you want and deserve if you can really or do you really want to have a long distant relationship with someone who is emotionally distant as well, and lack communication?

At some point, you have to get together, and close the distance between you, and if not, sorry but it will get harder, and more frustrating.