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kitten94515
Mar 20, 2008, 11:03 AM
affection.
since I broke up with my boyfriend, I feel lonely every now and then.
and I begin cravong affection.
and it sucks.
how do I get it off my mind?
and I don't know what to do with my life.
:o
&&& I sound retarted. ^^

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE
Mar 20, 2008, 11:06 AM
A man isn't going to be everything in a woman's life.

Your passions are important
Your friends are important
Your family is important
Your education is important
Your job is important (if you have one)
Your beliefs are important (if you're religious)

See? I just listed 6 things that are most significant in your life. Don't let some guy overrule them.

*If you want affection, get a puppy or kitten. They're great for that!

JBeaucaire
Mar 20, 2008, 11:14 AM
Find some situations where you can GIVE affection and it will be immediately and completely returned and appreciated... OTHER than dating.

Candy-striping, volunteering at a family aid shelter, working in children's center, Girl Scouts... find something loving to give your attention too, that should provide an outlet at least.

plonak
Mar 20, 2008, 11:50 AM
Jesus Christ is your answer!

kitten94515
Mar 20, 2008, 12:15 PM
I want a pet and my dad said I can get one in a month.
I was like that won't help in a month!!
But no I am actually scared I won't get another boyfriend.
I know that's normal, but still.
]:
And my church is too far away for me to go to.

plonak
Mar 20, 2008, 02:07 PM
Jesus fills that empty hole that you feel inside you.. no one can ever fill that. Just by simply getting another boyfriend won't fill that emptyness. You don't have to go to church to have a relationship with Christ..

Just excepting him in your heart, having a relationship with him and asking for forgivness of your sins through him is what christianity is about. Church is important for fellowship and growth but is not essential with Jesus Christ.

blk_beauty
Mar 20, 2008, 06:03 PM
When me and my bf of 8yrs broke up I felt the same way and I was very depressed, and I must agree with plonak, I allowed Jesus into my life! I didn't know what else to do I was so sad and depressd, so I started praying and decided the only way for me to be happy is to live a saved life, and honestly I haven't had a boyfriend since, haven't sinned and had sex and God has been truly blessing me. I ask God to send me a Good ,saved, not bf but husband! And until God sends him I'll stay single
.

kitten94515
Mar 21, 2008, 06:50 AM
You do know I'm 13 right?
Because umm I believe in god. And when I was little I went to church and I used to pray.
But I really don't think that will help me.
I feel jealousy;; dissapointment and forgotten;;
Yeah so...

mafiaangel180
Mar 21, 2008, 07:13 AM
Two words...

Truck stop.



Lol. All joking aside... yes I'm joking!.

It's normal to want to connect with someone. And usually (most times) affection is the number one thing that women look for. But unfortunately, sex is usually the number one thing men look for. And if you look for affection from a guy, he will no doubt want to take it to the next level, and at 13, that's not territory I would advise you enter into. I would say your best bet is to definitely just love yourself. Pamper yourself. Do you things you enjoy, and treat yourself like a princess. But at the same time, connect with friends, family, volunteering, and pets. Hopefully that will fill some of the emptiness.

George_1950
Mar 21, 2008, 08:12 AM
Visit your library; check for Susan Jeffers, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway; the answers by beautifulb and mafia are great.