It seems like when I wear a cute little dress and high heels, I get a lot more attention from men. They seem to treat me more like a lady... jump to open the door, etc. than when I am wearing pants w/ a top. Is there something to that? Do men really like women to look super feminine/girly? Is it sexual... fantasy of easy access or whatever? Is it that they get to see a little leg and that is a turn on? :confused:

Yes, the nicer you look the more men will notice you and hold open doors for you.. etc. Men like to look at attractive women and wearing a dress or being all done up will get you more attention.

I know when I wear a dress or heals I get A lot more of attention than I would wearing jeans or sneakers. Some men love women in a sexy little dress with high heels on. And Other men love women with just some jeans, a t-shirt and some nikes on. And men do treat me more lady like when I wear a dress. So being dressed up will get you more attention. Let me ask you. When you go to the mall... Do you notice women who are dressed up or dressed provacatively more rather than a woman wearing pants and shoes? Sure everybody does. Dress to impress right?

Absolutely. Men are visual, they instinctively respond to visual stimulus MUCH more than anything you ever say. Even "I love you" is less stimulating than a beautiful v-neck cocktail dress worn and aimed specifically at some guy.

Remember that when you're trying to motivate men, we're much easier to manipulate when you use the proper tools.

I'm just saying.

Remember that when you're trying to motivate men, we're much easier to manipulate when you use the proper tools.

Thanks... good to know!! I just bought the perfect little dress and spikey pumps! :D

When you go to the mall.... Do you notice women who are dressed up or dressed provacatively more rather than a woman wearing pants and shoes?? Sure everybody does. Dress to impress right?

Of course I notice them... but, as a man... would I want a long term relationship with a woman that dresses provacatively? Once I seduce them with my body, how do keep them? (THEM... hahahaha... one will do):o

Of course I notice them....but, as a man....would I want a long term relationship with a woman that dresses provacatively? Once I seduce them with my body, how do keep them? (THEM...hahahaha...one will do):oIt makes me sad when people show how clearly they think that dating someone and HAVING them means you do different things.

If a guy falls for the girl he is dating, why in the world would she want to STOP doing/being those things once he gets her.

Men are respond visually and women respond emotionally.. Enough said. Lol

However, it's just the same with women...

I'm sure you notice a guy who's clean cut and well groomed and is wearing a suit rather than that bummy guy with shaggy hair and is wearing shirt + shorts with remnants of last night's dinner on it.

It makes me sad when people show how clearly they think that dating someone and HAVING them means you do different things.

If a guy falls for the girl he is dating, why in the world would she want to STOP doing/being those things once he gets her.


I wouldn't stop dressing cute and sexy even after I had him. I wouldn't change for anyone. Been there done that. But, what would keep him interested? And again... does a guy want to be with the girl that attracts a lot of attention long term or is it just the thrill of the chase and it's over?

however, it's just the same with women...

I'm sure you notice a guy who's clean cut and well groomed and is wearing a suit rather than that bummy guy with shaggy hair and is wearing shirt + shorts with remnants of last night's dinner on it.


Hahaha... EWWWW!

Very true... I like a clean cut and well groomed man. But, I don't want to see him with his shirt unbuttoned down to his belly button to show me some skin. OK... I do... but, not out and about at night.

Funny... when I go out, I like to see men covered up and they want to see women half naked.

Actually, I like girls that are more covered up.. I go for the conservative type.

But, what would keep him interested?If you stay interestng and don't turn into psycho needy jealous chick. I'd like that.

And again... does a guy want to be with the girl that attracts a lot of attention long term or is it just the thrill of the chase and it's over?Guy 1 - just a thrill
Guy 2 - long term

Your job is to find out if Guy 1 or Guy 2 is your cup of tea and figure out which one you have. Keep the one that matches. It's going to be hard because you'll like them BOTH.

Nope... not psycho needy jealous chick! I don't have the time or energy for that.


Your job is to find out if Guy 1 or Guy 2 is your cup of tea and figure out which one you have. Keep the one that matches. It's gonna be hard because you'll like them BOTH.

I will like them BOTH... damn them to hell... ;)

Thanks!

I am the opposite of everything I have been reading on this post. If I see a girl who is all dressed up at the mall or anywhere I think to myself why doesn't she just walk around screaming LOOK AT ME, LOOK AT ME. I respond to a girl wearing a t-shirt and Jeans with no make up on and hair in a pony tail. To me that says I am what I am and I don't need to dress up to get you to notice me.

Also I was raised correctly so I hold doors open for ALL women regardless if they look like they climbed out of a coal mine or just got done doing a modeling shoot.

I would want her to remain attractive and attract attention. If she stopped then I would lose interest, or at least be disappointed that I don't get to see her all done up anymore. Some of the best nights I have with my GF are after we go out to a party or wedding and are all dressed up.

Is it a question of carriage? I mean, if a woman in jeans and a t-shirt carries herself with poise and inner-sexiness, why isn't that as sexy to a man as a woman in a haltertop dress with stilettos?

Personally? I love them to wear them both... but my carriage remains the same in either...

A guy is the same in my opinion. You can find some sleezy guys that wouldn't get the time of day from me in an Armani suit, but just around the corner will be a guy in faded jeans and a Star Wars t-shirt that catches my eye...

So, is it about attitude/carriage or is it about looks? For me, its carriage.

I noticed I get different attention from different types of men (and sometimes women) depending how I dress. So depending on the situation and what I want it depends what I wear and how I act.

I think how you act influences how people treat you. I bet you act more feminine in a dress. It's almost impossible to walk asexually in heels (unless you want to fall over). I've noticed if I'm wearing jeans and a T-shirt I can get the same response as wearing a dress if I just work it! Oh dear I've been watching too much america's next top model...

You can do the opposite experiment too, dress up really nice. Then hunch your shoulders, look down and hold defensive, arms crossed body language. Don't smile. You'll get zero attention.

I think this is what people are talking about when they say inner beauty and confidence.

I find I do get more attention when I do dress up, but sometimes being an Engineer and working in this "man territory (still!)" they (the men) assume if I'm all pretty and feminine that must mean I have absolutely no brains!

I find I do get more attention when I do dress up, but sometimes being an Engineer and working in this "man territory (still!)" they (the men) assume if I'm all pretty and feminine that must mean I have absolutely no brains!!

I know exactly what you mean. I love to get all dressed up and then see the look on a man's face when he finds out that my background is chemistry. I no longer work as a Chemist... but work in Regulatory for a Medical Device company (chemistry is still relevant to my position). Anyway, I have had to prove myself with several people in order to be taken seriously.

Do you know why women make bad Engineer's? [Hold up your pinky] Because all their lives they are told that this is six inches. Hahahaha! That's my favorite Engineer joke.

A beautiful dress and high heels do make a woman totally different. I am a fashional woman,always crazy for shopping,I understand that pretty well.Most men like woman look super feminine... haha!my boyfriend told me that as well!