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chick90
Mar 12, 2008, 03:00 AM
Flirting is playful behaviour intended to arouse sexual interest. Dict definition

When is flirting wrong?
When in a relationship with someone is it OK to flirt with others of the opposite or same sex? In a way in which it may create sexual interest from the person not in the relationship..
Is it OK if that person is notified that the other person is in a relationship... and is it not OK or misleading if that person in the relationship does not state they the are involved with another person?

What would you consider over the top or too much or even OK??
Give feedback as you wish as I am in endless debate with my partner as he thinks a lot of the thing s he does and says are not flirtatious or misleading.

Happy answering :)

rachel101
Mar 12, 2008, 08:26 AM
I think that someone in a committed relationship shouldn't be flirting at all. Why would one want to create sexual interest with someone other than their partner if they are responsible and committed to their relationship. In my opinion if your partner flirts "too much" by your definition and it makes YOU uncomfortable then you are not suited to each other. If your partner doesn't see the issue you have and you can't accept you partner as a flirt then this will always be a point of contention between you.

I had a partner who flirted back whenever he was flirted with and as much as I explained how bad it made me feel he just didn't care enough to change his ways so I dumped him.

Anyway just my opinion.

chick90
Mar 13, 2008, 04:42 AM
Yeah I totally agree
He has now seen the light and what he caused because of it I hope so no dumping will be necessary... I agree and am glad someone else's thinks the same

jolienoire
Mar 13, 2008, 08:37 AM
Flirting is the gentle art of making someone feel pleased with themselves its definitely for some an ego high, its intimacy at a safe level, and shouldn't be going on when you are in a serious relationship, it can be misleading to the other person, and it's definitely in my opinion a turn off for me.

talaniman
Mar 13, 2008, 10:20 PM
If you are insecure, a flirting partner will make you even more so, and if they make excuses that its innocent and putting the blame on you, then that's a real red flag, and you should pay attention. Either let it go, or let them go.