I am 22 years old and have 2 children, my husband and I have an awesome sex life but he recently started working 3rd shift, so we don't get a lot of time together. One thing I have always wanted to do is to orgasm by myself, I orgasm during intercourse but never by myself. I have tried many times, this is also something that my husband wants me to do. Any help with this subject would be great. I have ask this question other places and usually told to go buy a book on this subject, but money is tight. Anyone have any suggestions?

You can try a lot of things, one is toys... the other thing you have to think about is weather you have clitoris stimulated orgasims, or penitration orgasms. You may find you have just been focusing on the wrong area. Next is, if your not to shy, try porn. Even for woman it can be very stimulating

Sounds like you like/need a penetrating device such as a dildo or similar, try anything penis-shaped and slow luxuriant strokes along your clitoris-use saliva first or some water-based lubricant, vaseline is a reasonable lubricant-probably vitamin E cream is the best-usually this will be okay internally as well.