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elfrio
Mar 10, 2008, 11:38 AM
I happen to be together with a lady whom I love dearly more than I love anything else..
The problem starts with the fact that she is an esoteric healer i.e.. She does hand healing healing with the help of angels , prayers and medicines which you transfer through symbols, and also very strongly in symbol healing
I am at best an atheist with strong agnostic tendencies
But these to a certain extend we could put apart, even if it seems impossible
What did occur she went to a Spanish island to search for a hotel to hold seminars for the people who what to attend hers..
There she meet a guy who directly told her she wanted to have sex with her..
She told him no I love another man but yet stayed with him all the days she was there..
She claims she had the best day of her life there climbing to the top of a volcano with her
Well call me old fashion till this point I was just a bit upset but as she told me she gave him her number an email address I got quite upset
You see I cannot do any of the above because she claims she cannot handle jealousy but I must put up with it!! Daaaaa
What's really bad is she had me for 2 and half years believing she was naïve about men because she claimed she never noticed when they were after her
Well now that one clearly does say I am after you I don't consider it appropriate (as I want to marry he to have done what she did..
All this I pieced together as she is not a lier but she's cautious as to when or what to say..
Now here's the hard stuff due to the fact I got upset now she claims I am destroying her freedom and I must accept her as she is or not at all and decided to take 2 weeks off from me...
Well need less to say I guess it is indeed love as I otherwise would have sent her to hell a long time ago...
Now remember I cannot do what she did.. of course I would not as I cherish our relation and if a woman came to me with a sexual proposition I would not see her again
She claims this guy just keep showing up were she was daaaa she could had just say hi and goodbye of, but no she spent a lot of time with him..
She considers she can deal with this type of men I a different level..
Even if she previously did not realize she was being approached (one guy I told her to stay away from has been behind her for almost more than a year off an on through her cellular, and I warned her from day one what he wanted was not a business deal as she claimed)
But she can now not say she did not know
Still I admire her honesty even if I had to push it out
I say she just loves to flirt and be seen as a good looking woman by a younger man she's 44 he is 30
Now I am lost I believe I must handle here hard and leave her even if it will break my heart
What do you say
I am hurting big time

COOKIE MONSTER
Mar 11, 2008, 06:22 AM
Id get rid she no's he wants more than just friends or bizness he wants to have sex with her [she gave him her mobile number and email address] if she wasn't interested why did she do that? Plus how many other men is she going to give them to? I wouldn't beable to trust her again or trust this man around her. Your not destroying her freedom at all your serposed to be acouple and its not right for her to be spending time on her own with sum man that wants to have sex with her