Can someone please define this sentence :-

"there is something about her"

When a man says that what does it mean?
And would it make a difference if the man who said is married or single?

Please anyone? Is it something sexual?

Doesn't have to be sexual.. can describe an "aura" or some "presence"... sure, it could mean an attraction, even one that is sexually charged, but that's reaching without knowing more...

As I take it, without knowing context, that that person has some kind of "presence" about him or her. I know a guy who just draws attention to him without trying... he just can run a room. He has a unique charisma. He's the guy who people group around at a party, without even trying.

But there's no context here to understand. At the very least, the person that said this recognizes some charismatic quality most likely... though I suppose you could say the same words to describe someone who was a little "off center"... as in odd.

What's the context??

Also, please be more patient on the boards... people come and go here all day long... when I ask a question I hope for reasonable answers within a couple of days... and some posts I answer may not be viewed by me until a day or two after posting.

Sorry :(

The context was in party - around people and said with a smile
She is quite a chubbyish girl, quite cute.. large boobs and was dancing around the dance floor - everybody was looking at her.. (in a good way)
She is very outgoing and has a very flirtaous act towards guys, when I say very I mean VERY LOL

Well... could mean she's a "free spirit", she's "uninhibited", "charismatic" as I mentioned... certainly means she doesn't seem to "walk in the same line" as everyone else.

I don't think it was said maliciously, though if she was causing a scene and it was a little over the top, it could imply some of the above with a slight negative tone.

Really, really easy to overthink this.

What does 'walk in the same line' mean exactly?

No it wasn't meant in a bad way!
The 2 guys who said this had that look on their faces - naughty boy look!

Im intrugued esp as she is a chubbyish girl... who has a very flirtaous and outgoing personality - in fact her friends are guys... mainly!

what does 'walk in the same line' mean exactly?

Im intrugued esp as she is a chubbyish girl... who has a very flirtaous and outgoing personality - infact her friends are guys.... mainly!


"walk in the same line" just meant that she doesn't need to do what others do or act like... she's confident enough to act differently... although some people probably act differently, and less like "themselves" to get attention too.

I know a woman a lot like you are describing. Her flirting isn't sleezy. She's has tons of friends and people are just drawn to her outgoing, fun, naughty nature. And she does it all honestly... its not an act... she just is really outgoing. And a flirt without it being nasty.

OK I think I get the drift of it - thanks :)
What if one the men who said this is married (to my friend)...
Nothing for me to worry about even telling her?

Im not sure if its done in all honesty as she has a rep for breaking up couples and she is only 19!

Not trying to be a snot, but you seem to be looking for more here than there is.

What? You think you might need to "tell" on a guy who was one of many watching her? Just cause a guy gets married doesn't mean he suddenly has blinders on and no other woman is ever attractive again. Same goes for women. My wife sees guys she thinks are hot from time to time... its not like she suddenly became asexual.

*partly off topic snippet. I was at an great bar once... remodelled second floor of an old warehouse... leather couches everywhere... live music.. was great. I'm looking around and see this big stud of a guy... 24ish, 6ft4, 220, dude has guns for arms and clearly could be a model/athelete/workout guru. This guy is probably going home with whomever he wants, whenever he wants. You could practically count his ab muscles from across the room.

So I ask a girl there if that guy played on the local football team. She looks, gasps, looks again, says "wow!!!" she turns to her friend, points him out, and the girl bounces in her chair and says way, waaaaay too loud

"OH MY GOD! i think he just broke my vagina!!!"

Henceforth, guys who are so well put together that they make women shudder at their sight are now known to the group as virtual 'gina-breakers.

Mkay... back to topic.

So... near as I can tell, there's no reason to tattle on the boy unless you know, not suspect, that there's any reason for her to be concerned.

I can tell you of... one, maybe two women I could say the same thing about. Even if the guy is sexually charged by her, doesn't mean he's going to drop his pants.

I don't think you should enable a guy to cheat, I don't think you should hide a truth from a friend... but there's absolutely nothing here to indicate that he's being unfaithful to his girl, so why make her fret about nothing?

OK thank you

Can someone please define this sentence :-

"there is something about her"

when a man says that what does it mean?
and would it make a difference if the man who said is married or single?
OK, I'm a guy... and this topic actually has come up talking with my wife.

THere are certain women that might catch my eye. They may not be classic beauties, they might not be the best built women out there, but there is something about the way she is put together that catches my eye. Sometimes they can be rather ordinary women. But they carry themselves in such a way that I might like combined with certain features I like, she can get my attention.


Its something that will be different from person to person and it really is difficult to put into words.

And no it won't make a difference if he is married or not if he says it. A single guy would be free to pursue her and the married guy won't, but when a guy says it its because he means it.


However Reviewing the OP. This can also be something negative as well for the vary same reasons. If it was a woman that said it you could contribute it to women's intuition.

So depending on the context it can mean either the guy gets a reaction out seeing her. Or he is put off by her.

Yes its all making sense and I understand it now

The woman has intangible qualities that the man cannot put into words... she has very powerful appeal.