I would like to know when my BF perform oral sex on me and I have an orgasm I urinate? I love when he go down on me but I'm so arfaid that I'm going to urinate again even when I empty my bladder B4 it happen

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There's a good chance it's not urination but ejaculation.

However, if you are sure it's urine, then you may have urinary incontinence. If this the case, see a urologist as they will prescribe you some medication to help you with this.

As stated, women can experience an ejaculation of prostatic-like fluid that is similar to that in the male...

So... do you expect him to withhold ejaculation when you go down on him? no... you can deal with it a number of ways. In hand. In mouth. On a towel. etc.

If you seem to have a larger volume of fluid, please know, and let him know, that the female can ejaculate similar to the male... its an alkaline solution that can help sperm survive the acidic environment of the vagina... there's suspicion that that some women simply have a greater capacity for prostatic volume, based on their anatomy.

So... please... let him know that he's doing a great job if he's getting you off orally... kudos to him, wonderful that he's willing to do this for you, and wonderful that you have such a great response. You are lucky, even though you are a little concerned.

PM me if you need more info. I have some resources that can spell it out for you or him concerning the fact that this is a normal response, even though some women have more volume than others.

There are differences of opinion about how the female genitals interact with the urinary system. I am one who thinks that female ejaculation is more "urban myth" than responsible understanding of female orgasmic capacity.

All so-called female ejaculation comes out of the urethra, the tube leading from the urine-bladder to the outside of the female body. If you are urinating during sex, whether a small amount or a large amount, you are missing out on real female orgasmic response; you are having a "urine thrill", so to speak. Many women have sexual feelings associated with urination from childhood influences. It is even possible to have spasms of the urethra which I have experienced... that is not an orgasm!

You are probably young and have immature neural pathways so you only experience being turned on as an urge to urinate, that would be my opinion. Perhaps, oral sex is too stimulating to your clitoris and urethra... not stimulating enough to your vagina. Have your boyfriend put on a rubber and insert his penis into your vagina so you can feel how wonderful that is! If you are a virgin, it will hurt the first time. Practice him having his penis in your vagina without all the masturbatory pumping that young guys want to do, mistaking intercourse for masturbatory jerking-off.

Nevertheless, you will have to get in touch with passion in the future, passion makes all the difference between sex being passive and sex being fabulous and orgasmic. :)