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cammi 50
Feb 23, 2008, 06:56 PM
I never had an orgasm before druing sex/ oral sex and I don't like to make any noise at all druing sex.

Is there something wrong with me help

simoneaugie
Feb 23, 2008, 07:09 PM
Practice when there's no one around. Have an orgasm or a lot of them by yourself. Then you will know what works for you. Breath differently and see if that changes anything. Some people must make some noise. Sex happens, it's not a secret, noise is permitted. Some need to hold their breath. Find out what works, keeping in mind that that may change as time goes on.

thegandyman
Feb 23, 2008, 07:12 PM
The Chinese believe that breathing is key. If you clam up when you are building up than it won't work for you. Make noise because it will keep you breathing, if you cannot make noise without conscious effort, try just panting, different positions may help with the breathing thing.

dragnlady5
Feb 24, 2008, 03:29 PM
Oh yes noise is the key for me. I have better orgasms when I make noise then when I try to be quiet. Like sigmon said. Practice practice practice.Once you find out what you like don't be bashful. Tell your man what you want.

Choux
Feb 26, 2008, 01:39 PM
It sounds like you may be young, inhibited and sexually repressed. In that case, you have to get in touch with your sensuous self by stimulating your pleasure centers. I think I would recommend a beginners book on how to arouse your passionate feelings. I don't know any because I was self-taught, so you may have to go to Amazon.

It may be possible that you are so eager to have a boyfriend that you are afraid to "make a mistake" lest you lose him. Having passionate orgasmic sex is not romantic... it is about fluids and perspiration and hair and moaning and...