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mirandycc
Feb 22, 2008, 09:48 AM
Do men like to indulge in foreplay? Romantic situations? Special Occasions? As much as women do, or do they do it because women like it to be done like that?:) :confused:
smoothy
Feb 22, 2008, 09:49 AM
Depends on the guy and the woman... many do, a few don't.
hollylovesbrandon
Feb 22, 2008, 10:24 AM
I agree with smoothy. Some do, some don't. Just depends on the guy. My guy does, because he is focused on my pleasure before his.
mirandycc
Feb 22, 2008, 10:25 AM
Yeah, but does he do it just because of you wanting it, or does he enjoy it?
hollylovesbrandon
Feb 22, 2008, 10:35 AM
He enjoys it BECAUSE I like it.
smoothy
Feb 22, 2008, 10:51 AM
yeah, but does he do it just because of you wanting it, or does he enjoy it?
That depends on the woman as well. I have had partners that make me feel wonderful while I am doing it (like my wife) then there were others that made if feel like torture.
NeedKarma
Feb 22, 2008, 10:56 AM
Romance is a two way street.
kp2171
Feb 22, 2008, 11:17 AM
The answer really has been said, some do, some don't.
For ex... I absolutely love to make out. Love it. Id even say I like making out and petting more than my wife. Just love to kiss.
If you gave me an option... girls gets you off every time efficiently, wham, bam, done... or I don't get off but I do get to indulge in foreplay or making out more often than not, its really not a tough choice. Sex is always better when you are mentally and physically primed... and sometimes not taking it to the "end" can amp you up.
For ex... I know it's a little off topic concerning foreplay, but there was a period in a relationship for a few months where a partner of mine couldn't have intercourse. She was very kind to oblige me in other ways, and it seemed like I was the rich kid in the candy store many, many days in a row. I probably received more oral in a three month time than I did in my lifetime before that. And, I can't even believe I'm typing this, it got boring.
Boring-ish? OK, it wasn't go-solve-complex-polynomials-while-clipping-your-toenails boring. But it lost some of its I-dont-get-this-all-the-time edge.
Same goes for foreplay or making out. With a kid in the house, you just don't have a lot of time to get naked by the fire and trace each others bodies with your fingertips on a whim. You can plan for it. You can get a sitter. But you don't get that spontaneous moment that lets you take a lot of time to make time. When you can't get it, it wears and tears on you. Now if the partner just won't give it, man... that can be a real strain if you have openly communicated.
Now, as romance goes, ill have my moments, but I'm not sappy about it all the time... more like when you make a effort, make it worthwhile and meaningful. This last year I started putting flowers on my wife's vanity every week. New week, new flowers. Every morning she gets ready for work and sees them. She likes it, I like doing it. Its easy, sweet, and not fake.
Ask me to write some sugary poem, and ill glaze over like a doughnut. I might write a naughty note and leave it in your purse... but I'm not going to try to be a hallmark card.
So it takes, as said, some quid pro quo. You talk it out and try to meet in between. I know my wife loves to be massaged. So I've read books on it and try my best. She likes it, and it charges me too. She knows my quirks and likes, and tries to push my buttons when she can.
Sometimes you don't have time. Sometimes a quickie can take the edge off and be a nice get-to-the-next-time effort.
So... hopefully any person, guy or girl is in-between. You do it because you honestly enjoy it some and you do it because your partner enjoys it some...
Always good to pick your battles wisely, and that includes "making" yourself do the work that is needed to make a marriage or a relationship last... cause it is work, even in the best relationships. Methinks it better to do the "work" that is fun than the "work" of argueing about one partner is neglecting the other. But you know there are times if you are doing all the heavy lifting... it isn't OK.
Choux
Feb 22, 2008, 12:44 PM
Good variety of answers from the other experts... I would just add that a woman should make sure her man knows what she expects re special occasions etc... remind him... and never complain, no matter what!
You see, I believe, that as far as intercourse is concerned, a man would rather get down to business, so his concessions to your desires should be rewarded every so often. :)
slapshot_oi
Feb 22, 2008, 03:48 PM
Do men like to indulge in foreplay? Romantic situations? Special Occasions? As much as women do, or do they do it because women like it to be done like that?:) :confused:
Depends on the level of attraction. If it's a barfly floozy... doubtful.
I loved foreplay with my ex. Some days it would last for hours, depending on how lazy I was. We'd foreplay for close to an hour, or at least until she got-off, and then have sex for about 30 minutes; nice and slow and never climax. Then foreplay again--but I'd guess you'd call it midplay at this point---back to sex, tease her, play, tease, sex... and round and round we'd go.
In fact, I'll go as far to say that the best sex had isn't even penetration, it's the foreplay.