OK, so paternity has been established and my ex. And I are in agreement that my daughter come stay with me. The issues at hand now are fist to get my daughter. I do not know if her aunt is going to be cooperative or not; if she is than she will send her with me and we will go to the judge and get it finalized and this first part will go smooth I will have my daughter, if not than what should I expect to go through to get my daughter?
And now comes the even harder issue of my older one. First I will have to get a hold of her sperm donor and get him to relinquish his parental rights and adopt her. What should I expect here? If he does it than will it be the same deal to get her back? If not is there anything I can do? If any one can spare any advice I would be so grateful. Sorry for the long winded questions and thanks.

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Sorry I tried posting this on the old string with no response.

Is this a follow up question ? ( was your nick nonya ? )
Any way you look at it your going to need to file with the courts for custody. If all parties are willing it's a slam dunk. If not then it will be contested and you will have to prove your fitness as a father. On the second part for the non-bio child you will have to file a separate motion and also make a good faith effort ( and prove you did ) in finding the bio father of that child. Then it's a matter of adoption. You really need a lawyer to help you through this and to get all the right papers filed.