... hay me and my girl friend broke up on February 2, 2008... is their any way that I can get back her heart...


... can I do something to ease her heart...

... can I get advice on how a girl feels about love...

... can I get back with her?
... she said that I changed and that I wasn't the same... need help asap... because I miss her everyday and I love her too much to let her go

THE STORY IS THAT ONE DAY ON A FRIDAY SHE CAME TO MY HOUSE AND SHE WANTED TO BREAK UP WITH ME... I TOLD HER TO RECONSIDER AND EVERYTHING... BUT SHE JUST SAID THAT I CHANGED AND THAT SHE FELT THAT SHE Didn't SHOW THE EMOTIONGS THAT SHE FELT WITH ME A LONG TIME AGO... SHE ALSO SAID SOMETHING ABOUT ME NOT BEING MOTIVATED AND ALL FOR HER... WE HAD BEEN GOING OUT FOR MORE THAN 2 YEARS NOW... HOW SHOULD I ACT TO GET HER BACK BECAUSE RIGHT NOW I AM FEELING DEPRESSED AND THAT I SHOW IT TO HER can't EVEN TALK TO HER IT HURTS SO MUCH

Um, well to really answer that you got to go a little deeper and say more about what happened. What were the circumstances and why do you want her back and so forth

If she doesn't want to be with you, then there really isn't much you can do. Why try to force her back into the relationship? It'll build more problems on top of the ones the two of you already have. Sometimes you just got to let go. It hurts, but what doesn't kill you will make you stronger

Short Answer: It's over.

Long Answer: You're stuck between a rock and a hard place. On one side, you find yourself longing for her and you really miss her, and you would do ANYTHING to get her back. If you do everything in your power, it will just be so much pressure on her end, or she will be weirded out, or a combination, and she will just be pushed farther and farther away.

On the other side, if you do what you are supposed to do, and mind your own business and leave her alone, she will eventually move on and so will you.

In both circumstances, it's over and will remain over. My guess is that this is the first time ever that you've felt this way and will do anything to save the relationship. Well, the best way to learn is by experience, so I have a feeling that no matter what we say, you are going to do whatever you can to save the relationship. By doing so, you will push her away, and she will eventually hate you for it. It will cause you even more heartbreak, and may even force her to date someone else for "protection". All bad things, obviously.

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I feel your loss, but you must accepted it, and heal from that loss, to move on. There is no way to change someone. As bad as you feels right now, it will get better, so read the links in my post, for insights and answers, as to what to do now, for yourself.

There is a way to get her back.
First of all, you may have already lost her.
And when you beg and plead, it makes you seem needy and desperate and that will only push her further away because that negative energy will make it too uncomfortable for her to be around you.
But it's okay if you've screwed that part up.
Now, the hardest part is to stay away from her.
Fall off the face of the Earth to her.
It will make her realize what life is like without you.
Most likely she will call or come around.
At that point, you can proceed with your strategy.
And you have to have a strategy.
Also, if you have something that screwed the relationship up in the beginning... you need to address those issues. You need to fix that or else you'll end up right back where you are now.
Have a plan. Be confident. Pretend like you have your s**t together. She has to feel the sense that you're doing fine without her.
Otherwise, you'll just push her away.
It's going to be hard. You'll want to call... really bad... but you can't right now.
Watch... she will come back if you ignore her.
I'm not saying you will be able to fix all the f**kups but at least you'll get a chance to proceed with your plan...