About me and who I would like to meet: conscription
I'm a man who is proud of myself, I respect myself and others I'm aware of who I am and seek no definition form the person I'm with nor do I expect her to read my mind. I'm strong enough to make my dreams come true I know love and I give love I recognize that my love has great value and must be reciprocated. I believe I have a dash of inspiration and a dabble of endurance. I know my past, understand my present and I always move towards my future and I know God and with God the world is my playground but without him I just be played .I'm looking for a good woman as I'm a good man she doesn't have to declare how sensitive, sweet, sincere she is as time will tell she won't degrade me if our opinion's clash, she can admit when she’s wrong. A good woman will not meet every thing on my check list because she’s human with frailties and faults mixed in with her wonderful, strong attributes, she needs my love and respect just as I need her’s. over time we grow and become one... she doesn't have to be flashy or rich or have a great body (but hey I won't be unhappy if she doe's) I'm just looking for my Miss Right you know someone I can be her Mr. Right.

So... you're looking to hook up with a woman at the AskMeHelpDesk discussion board?

So...you're looking to hook up with a woman at the AskMeHelpDesk discussion board?

He is till learning how to use this board. He only joined today - he is a newbie. Help him out.

Peter Love - this is not a place you can find love but a place where we help people. If you are wanting us to help you figure out where you have gone wrong in the past with relationships? Or how you can make a move a women you may have you eye on - then we can help you.

Peter,you've made your welcome statement.I see from your profile,that you're an IT Recruiter.You will find that a lot of us here,look through Windows,and out onto Linux.Feel free to ask any question.Welcome aboard.

Peter,you've made your welcome statement.I see from your profile,that your an IT Recruiter.You will find that a lot of us here,look through Windows,and out onto Linux.Feel free to ask any question.Welcome aboard.

Cheers Nez for helping me out there. I am struggling to help Peter understand how this site works.

As you learn to use the board you will find beter sections to ask such things.

And love and finding someone is where you find it. I meeet my wife on line, we were part of a instant message group and she liked my cute name I used back then. ( one never to be mentioned again by the way)

We chatted for a few months and meet and fell in love at first site.

So love can be found almost anywhere.

I may suggest you might find another photo, not complaining, but it looks like a photo of a prisioner in his orange jump suit against a blank white wall in a visiting room. ** Not that it is, but it was the first thing that caught my eye even before I read the post.

Hi Peter and Welcome to the site, I know you will find this site very useful to you. Its wonderful that you know exactly what you want out of a woman and you put it so eloquently, not many peole know what they want.

But I wasn't sure if you were asking a question because you wanted advice? Or you were asking because you were looking for a woman on this site. Just let us know, we do want to help.:D

I know what I would want in woman... BUT, it doesn't work that way at all. My gal is so different, of course he has a lot of qualites and values I need, but she is different and I love her for that.

If your looking for a specific woman or man - you will never find it. People aren't built that way. You need to learn to give and take.

I'd keep an open mind to all woman. Don't ever right off a woman you first meet because she doesn't have things on your list. Give it time.

I know what I would want in woman....BUT, it doesn't work that way at all. My gal is so different, of course he has a lot of qualites and values I need, but she is different and I love her for that.

If your looking for a specific woman or man - you will never find it. People aren't built that way. You need to learn to give and take.

I'd keep an open mind to all woman. Don't ever right off a woman you first meet because she doesn't have things on your list. Give it time.

Very wise and sensible - I could not agree with you more. It's not just about looking for the right qualities, it's about the connection. When sparks start flying and you click with someone - just as Pete and I did. I just knew. He does not have all the qualities I was dreaming of in a Man, but he is so special and as wildcat said "Different" and that's what I love him for. If the Man I had dreamed about did walk into my life to sweep me off my feet, I would probably have to decline as Pete means so much more to me than some dream ;)

"sparks start flying" - so important. My gals personality is unbelivable. We laugh all the time even after over 1 year of knowing each other.

If I saw her on the street and didn't know her I might not give her a second look.

Very wise and sensible - I could not agree with you more. It's not just about looking for the right qualities, it's about the connection. When sparks start flying and you click with someone - just as Pete and I did. I just knew. He does not have all the qualities I was dreaming of in a Man, but he is so special and as wildcat said "Different" and thats what I love him for. If the Man I had dreamed about did walk into my life to sweep me off my feet, I would probably have to decline as Pete means so much more to me than some dream ;)

First of all, I'd just like to say that I'm looking for someone that is, and also, I'll only respond to women who have a picture of themselves displayed. Sorry if that all sounds a bit limiting but I really don't want to waste anyone's time. Now a bit about me. I've been on my own long enough now and whilst I enjoy my freedom and independence it would be nice to have someone I love around. This house is too quiet! I live life in the slow lane - I'm very simplistic. But I'm also impulsive and spontaneous at times. Lavishness and grand gestures, whilst all are very nice, they have never even come close to priority in my life. I like to feel comfortable, safe and secure, and most of all happy. That's all that matters. I'm looking for a gentlewoman, someone who's kind and isn't afraid to display affection at home or in public. My sense of humor is a little zany, but I also love things like Little Britain and Friends TV programs. I don't like nightclubs or anywhere very noisy! I do love and spend lots of time at home, but I also enjoy going to bars, dining out, cinema and theatre. I love the sunshine and hate the cold! Oh there's tons more I could say but let's leave it till you reply!
DJ u naughty naughty NAUGHTY GIRL! You have my email address, mail me, and I do have the same feelings as you have but I could not... you know what.

Peter Love, I am not sure I understand what you are saying or where you are going with your last comments there, but my boyfriend is called Pete and that is who I was referring to. Just thought I would clear that up.

Very wise and sensible - I could not agree with you more. It's not just about looking for the right qualities, it's about the connection. When sparks start flying and you click with someone - just as Pete and I did. I just knew. He does not have all the qualities I was dreaming of in a Man, but he is so special and as wildcat said "Different" and thats what I love him for. If the Man I had dreamed about did walk into my life to sweep me off my feet, I would probably have to decline as Pete means so much more to me than some dream ;)

First of all, I'd just like to say that I'm looking for someone that is, and also, I'll only respond to women who have a picture of themselves displayed. Sorry if that all sounds a bit limiting but I really don't want to waste anyone's time. Now a bit about me. I've been on my own long enough now and whilst I enjoy my freedom and independence it would be nice to have someone I love around. This house is too quiet! I live life in the slow lane - I'm very simplistic. But I'm also impulsive and spontaneous at times. Lavishness and grand gestures, whilst all are very nice, they have never even come close to priority in my life. I like to feel comfortable, safe and secure, and most of all happy. That's all that matters. I'm looking for a gentlewoman, someone who's kind and isn't afraid to display affection at home or in public. My sense of humor is a little zany, but I also love things like Little Britain and Friends TV programs. I don't like nightclubs or anywhere very noisy! I do love and spend lots of time at home, but I also enjoy going to bars, dining out, cinema and theatre. I love the sunshine and hate the cold! Oh there's tons more I could say but let's leave it till you reply!
DJ u naughty naughty NAUGHTY GIRL! You have my email address, mail me, and I do have the same feelings as you have but I could not... you know what.

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaah sorry about that girl! I may as well just have to wait... thanks a lot.

Peterlove. Im not sure if this would be the right site to find someone on. Since the whole point of this board is a helping board. Have you tried a dating site? There are suppose to be some good ones out there. Im not saying that you can't be optimistic in finding someone here and it's a great place to meet people. But I'm not sure how responsive woman will be here because of the main objective of being on this board is for people who need advice. But you seem like a nice guy and I wish you luck in love.

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaah sorry about that girl! I may as well just have to wait.....thanks a lot.

Wait for what?? I don't think you understand. I am with my boyfriend Pete and I hope to be for the rest of my life.

You seem like a nice guy and I sincerely hope you meet a women of your dreams, but I am not that women and this really is not the place to find the women of your dreams.

As Bizygurl said, why not try some online dating agencies, they can help you!

Not only that but, D'JH already has a boyfriend and for you to comment that you'll "just have to wait" seems a bit creepy considering she barely knows you. Why don't you get to know people a little bit better here by answering posts with advice and see what happens but I wouldn't put too many expectations on it. But hen again you never know.

Not only that but, D'JH already has a boyfriend and for you to comment that you'll "just have to wait" seems a bit creepy considering she barely knows you. Why don't you get to know people a little bit better here by answering posts with advice and see what happens but I wouldn't put too many expectations on it. But you never know. But I don't know if by joining a board that isn't tailored to dating will really work for you.

It isn't going to work. People come here for help & advice, not to hook up with people. I would not want to hook up with someone I had never met. I feel really close to one or two people on this site just through talking openly through PM's or on posts, but it does not instantly mean I want to hook up with them and have an online relationship - it just means I trust their knowledge and understanding do regard them as friends on some level. (if that makes sense)

I don't blame you at all for trying to hook-up with some of the ladies on this forum.The only problem is this is an advice forum for asking questions and getting answers.There are other sites for you to find you a female on so welcome and do respect all of us as this is serious to most of us!:cool:

I don't blame you at all for trying to hook-up with some of the ladies on this forum.The only problem is this is an advice forum for asking questions and getting answers.There are other sites for you to find you a female on so welcome and do respect all of us as this is serious to most of us!:cool:

I must say that your post was a compliment to us gals here, so thank you very much. :p

Thanks for the nice compliment talaniman. ;)

I agree with you D'J'H I don't really believe that it will work either. I just hope that he understands that and it doesn't turn into a harassing situation. Sometimes some people don't understand that not all sites are for dating, just because men and woman subscribe to them.:rolleyes:

thanks for the nice compliment talaniman. ;)

I agree with ya D'J'H I don't really believe that it will work either. I just hope that he understands that and it doesn't turn into a harrassing situation. Sometimes some people don't understand that not all sites are for dating, just because men and woman subscribe to them.:rolleyes:

I hope he understands that. I don't want his pride to be hurt because of all this but he has to understand that those sort of comments are not suitable for this website and not really suitable to say to me. All I did was help him out when he joined. I did not give him any sort of come on or signals to suggest anything of that kind. I am rather confused by the whole thing actually.

DJH - don't worry. You are a delicate should, I imagine he is not so delicate. He'll simply move on to another site and try again. He'll forget about everyone here in a second. I know the type.

Cheers Needkarma - I don't like hurting people's feelings, or making them feel inadequate; but that's good to know :)

DJ'H, Im the same way, I don't like hurting others feelings and I hate insulting anyone, but you did the right thing in telling him that you had a boyfriend and weren't interested. He probably would respond to any girl who shows him one ounce of kindness some people take advantage of others kindness, and the way he responded to you I felt was inapropriate. We are all adults here, and we need to act like adults. We had explained to him that this wasn't a dating site so hopefully he will take the hint.

DJ'H, Im the same way, I don't like hurting others feelings and I hate insulting anyone, but you did the right thing in telling him that you had a boyfriend and weren't interested. He probably would respond to any girl who shows him one ounce of kindness some people take advantage of others kindness, and the way he responded to you I felt was inapropriate. We are all adults here, and we need to act like adults. We had explained to him that this wasn't a dating site so hopefully he will take the hint.

You are so right Bizygurl! Thank you for your support!!

:D your welcome,honey!

I know gals are SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO concerned about not hurting a guys feelings. BUT, 1. I think it's always best to tell the truth - "you're just not my type, we're not compatible, I still not quite over my last boyfriend" - in the long run it will help change and improve the guy.
2. REMEMBER - guys are not built like women.
3. Guys ca nhandle the truth a lot better than you think.

I know gals are SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO concerned about not hurting a guys feelings. BUT, 1. I think it's always best to tell the truth - "you're just not my type, we're not compatible, I still not quite over my last boyfriend" - in the long run it will help change and improve the guy.
2. REMEMBER - guys are not built like women.
3. Guys ca nhandle the truth a lot better than you think.

Wildcat I am always honest and upfront. I don't see the point beating around the bush; and liers always get found out in the end. I respect others so much more for being truthful with me, so I give the same in return to earn their respect. I told Peter Love what was what. But I was just hoping that I had done so in an appropriate manner.

Good luck in finding that woman you are looking for, Pete. Id go to the like a forum that is made for that sort of thing though. They have plently of sites for that.

I know gals are SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO concerned about not hurting a guys feelings. BUT, 1. I think it's always best to tell the truth - "you're just not my type, we're not compatible, I still not quite over my last boyfriend" - in the long run it will help change and improve the guy.
2. REMEMBER - guys are not built like women.
3. Guys ca nhandle the truth a lot better than you think.


I don't think what DJ'H and I were talking about was only pertaining to guys but people in general. With me I don't like to hurt anyone's feelings whether be male or female. That's why I know I would never be good at being a boss over someone.

In this case I know men can handle the truth. But that wasn't what we were getting at. Its how we feel after we say "your not my type, we're not compatable." Im mean, I, don't dwell on it for days. But when I have told a guy that, a good guy that he wasn't my type, yes I do feel bad especially if he was interested.

If the guy had been a complete jerk, then I wouldn't waste another minute feeling bad about it.

Just these few words before I leave,there's not enough space for everyone's names... There is no single individual who has been "most" influential - everyone who has touched my life has made me who I am today... my mother, taught me the art of entertaining and how to be a man - she's also the most creative influence in my life. My father, shaped me into a dedicated man with an entrepreneurial flair and strategic vision (perhaps my strongest business influence). My sister imparted the value of dance and dreaming. My grandparents gave me lots of love and happy memories. My debate coach taught me to listen, to argue, to negotiate and to project. My uncle let me know that family is always there for you, my friends that their support is constant despite geographical boundaries. My grandfather taught me to be proud and appreciate, my family to appreciate nature and, and my late grandmother showed me you could die with dignity and live on in the hearts and souls of those around you. My friends taught me ( you guys included, thanks a lot) about gnomes and faeries, Reach out and expand my horizons, discover inner spirituality and guide me to my inner self, Also about multi-tasking and pushing the boundaries, and mainly about being proud and following your heart (thats the only mistake I made here). All my friends they have been there for years as friends reciprocally to share celebrations, to help embrace shortcomings (which you all have helped as well), to lend a hand, provide a shoulder and offer me an insight. There are others I don't personally know who have molded me; women like Kim Polese, Martha Stewart, Oprah Winfrey, Katherine Mwanamwambu, and others have touched me with the knowledge that as individuals and as both women and men - we can overcome - we can succeed, prosper and thrive!
Several men and women I know have truly prospered in business - and some have not, I've learned from them all (and most of them probably don't know it). My friends and family keep teaching me the value of enjoying life, they keep my feet firmly planted on the ground, and they nourish the essence of my being! And you guys have taught me something that will influence me continuously, shaping every day... of my life. Thanks and I would just like to say that this is the last of me, no………I am not running to another site but till I come out of this phase I will remain glued to my work………….I should not have wandered…………….once again thanks a lot to all of you kind folks and do take care of yourselves.
Good bye. God bless.

Just these few words before I leave,there's not enough space for everyone's names...There is no single individual who has been "most" influential - everyone who has touched my life has made me who I am today... my mother, taught me the art of entertaining and how to be a man - she's also the most creative influence in my life. My father, shaped me into a dedicated man with an entrepreneurial flair and strategic vision (perhaps my strongest business influence). My sister imparted the value of dance and dreaming. My grandparents gave me lots of love and happy memories. My debate coach taught me to listen, to argue, to negotiate and to project. My uncle let me know that family is always there for you, my friends that their support is constant despite geographical boundaries. My grandfather taught me to be proud and appreciate, my family to appreciate nature and, and my late grandmother showed me you could die with dignity and live on in the hearts and souls of those around you. My friends taught me ( you guys included, thanks a lot) about gnomes and faeries, Reach out and expand my horizons, discover inner spirituality and guide me to my inner self, Also about multi-tasking and pushing the boundaries, and mainly about being proud and following your heart (thats the only mistake I made here). All my friends they have been there for years as friends reciprocally to share celebrations, to help embrace shortcomings (which you all have helped as well), to lend a hand, provide a shoulder and offer me an insight. There are others I don't personally know who have molded me; women like Kim Polese, Martha Stewart, Oprah Winfrey, Katherine Mwanamwambu, and others have touched me with the knowledge that as individuals and as both women and men - we can overcome - we can succeed, prosper and thrive!
Several men and women I know have truly prospered in business - and some have not, I've learned from them all (and most of them probably don't know it). My friends and family keep teaching me the value of enjoying life, they keep my feet firmly planted on the ground, and they nourish the essence of my being! And you guys have taught me something that will influence me continuously, shaping every day...........of my life. Thanks and I would just like to say that this is the last of me, no………I am not running to another site but till I come out of this phase I will remain glued to my work………….I should not have wandered…………….once again thanks a lot to all of you kind folks and do take care of your selves.
Good bye. God bless.

I am glad we were ale to inspire you! And despite everything very sorry to see you leave the site. I wish you the very best of luck and hope you find what you are looking for.