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Happygolucky
Jan 29, 2008, 04:04 AM
Hi,
Ive been with my boyfriend for a while now and our sex life is healthy and frequent. The only thing is it seems to be getting a little repetitive for me I want to try new positions, try to spice it up abit if you know what I mean!

Any ideas?

Thanks

clafairey
Jan 29, 2008, 04:09 AM
There are some fun sexual board games you can buy online, different ones with positions etc. Or maybe make your own "sex dice" lol Put on one dice things like "lick" "Kiss" "tickle" etc, and on the other put body parts. Sex toys can be a lot of fun also, or maybe some light restraints if you are into that kind of thing? Hope this helps

Choux
Jan 29, 2008, 12:31 PM
There are many books on this topic! :)

kp2171
Jan 29, 2008, 12:53 PM
Read books about sex and sensuality. The best sex is when you mentally are lost in the moment, so getting into each others head is just as important as choosing between reverse cowgirl or using a chair as a prop.

Letsee... some of the books we have...

Joy of sex
Touching for pleasure
Tantra, the art of conscious loving
Kama sutra of vatsyayana
Sense relaxation
Techniques of sensual massage
The book of massage
Head to toe massage
She comes first
Zen sex
22 erotic stories for couples...

You get the point. Even if a book isn't great, usually there's something in there that might be a different approach or way of thinking. My partner loves a relaxing massage... helps her clear her mind, relax her body, and hands on skin starts the mental mindset in the right place.

Forcing each other to tease a bit without rushing, letting that tension build is big. Leave him a note in the morning in his car telling him "i have plans for you after work... dont be late. also, text me your preference... black lace or red silk? dont ask any questions"

Then when he chooses, tell him to look in his car. Put one outfit in the trunk, maybe the panties to the other in the glove box. When he chooses text him back "check your glovebox"... etc... you get it... let it build up all day.

There's always role playing. Its more mental foreplay.

As for positions... again, some books can help. Obviously some of it depends on what you like and what he likes. Some positions I favor do less for my lover unless she self stimulates during sex.

smoothy
Jan 29, 2008, 01:08 PM
Get a strap-on and tell him its his turn to ride a while... :eek: