OK, me and my friend are currently arguing about the factors of cheating. So I'm going to propose a question and let you guys decide.

Is it cheating to be in a relationship with someone that you "love" but have romantic feelings for someone else? If someone needs the background to better understand the situation of the question, let me know and I will post it

IMO, only if you ACT on the romantic feelings for the other person.

OK, well here, I shall help clarify this with the situation. Girl is dating guy, are in "love" and she harbors feelings for someone else romanticly. The guy she has the feelings for and her work together and were always together in a cashroom, she then breaks up with the guy she is dating, and starts talking to the guy she had feelings for

If those feelings cause you to react differently to your partner then yes it is cheating.

To me looking at someone and saying um... looks good or If I wasn't with so and so I might give that a shot. Is OK.

But day dreaming or comparing your current mate to this other love interest is certainly not fair. Esp, if it makes you treat your current partner in a negative way.

Yea, basically my ex ended it with me... Said the reason why jealousy so I took classes, went to therapy and read books on it to better myself and now I seem to think the real reason was because of this other guy.

To be with someone when you have feelings for another person just isn't cool. I mean, what's the point in being with someone if you can so easily have feelings for another? The relationship must not be that good, and that person should own up to their feelings and move on, not hang on because something is familiar. Make sense?

Yea, basically my ex ended it with me...Said the reason why jealousy so I took classes, went to therapy and read books on it to better myself and now I seem to think the real reason was because of this other guy.


Ohh, OK knowing the situation, my answer is going to change a bit.

You probably won't really know if she liked this guy when she loved you. Looking back on things, there is just so much none of us will ever know. We start wondering about our ex's real motives for dumping us. All I can say is maybe she really did have a problem with the jealousy. Then somewhere along the line, she just got needy for male attention and turned to this dude. Could be a possibility. But he might not be the reason you split.

I just feel as though it is, I mean to up and go and walk away crying her eyes out the day we broke up and asking for a kiss that same day... All the times I said she was flirting with him and ended up apologizing for accussing her, suddenly my jealousy doesn't seem so out of control

People make you jealouse in this world as well so its not all your fault

You didn't do anything wrong

Its wrong to be with someone that you don't have feelings for

Regards

It may have not been the whole truth, but its not cheating, and you did work on yourself for you, and are better for it. Now you just have to deal with this new revelation, and get on with your life.