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shama123
Jan 14, 2008, 10:27 AM
Assalama alikum

Dear Brother Zakir Naik,

I am really in confusion in my married life... wel my problem is that I have married going to be 2 years now. My husband has a friend who is a girl who was his colleague when he was working before marriage and till now they are close. Even she is married and has kid but she is away from her family working as she is the bread winner for her family. But she is close to my husband and also they tell it is pure friendship which I accepted when he had told me before wedding.she has helped a lot in money matters to my husband. But now after marriage I realised that whatever hapiness or sadness comes to him he first shares with her which really hurts me a lot. That female keeps coming home I do invite her thinking that I should understand their relationship as they are friends but few things make me really doubtful like my husband thinks twice to show me his mobile and when also I noticed in her is that she is jealous when my husband shows me concern front of her at the same time she keeps calling frequently to my husband any problems of hers she shares with my husband and also my husband thinks twice like when we go out he never clicks picture with me together and many other examples. All this things effect me a lot. And she is the girl where she takes advantage of our quarrel like when we quarrel of course my husband shares with her , where she gives her shoulders for him. When my parents realised that I am going all this they wanted me to come out of this marriage life but I didn't because I love my husband a lot an in nature his really a good man, he has got good qualities in him but due to this problem its effecting my marriage a lot. Sometimes I do speak to them regarding this matter finally I patch up because I don't want to things to go behind my eyes. At least here I will be aware what's happening . Many times I think of divorce but still I pray to allah that he will give me justice. Please Dr. zakir help me in this matter because that girl impresses my husband where she has a two faces. But deep inside she is jealous of our love.even today my parents are heartily wiatin me to bak and divorce him. Even the other day they both were chattin as she is out of country now then I was supposed to chat but my husband closed the tab in which he was chattin so that I don't read what they both chatted.. is friednship that important den the married life? If she is upset den even my husband is very much upset. She is a non muslim... should I walk out from my marriage life or should I stay with him?

wem
Jan 14, 2008, 11:52 AM
Nothing is more important than a vow you have made to God. But it appears that the decision to leave the marriage is your husbands not yours. Pray and if you truly love your husband then you will be there for him through his time of doubt.