I recently became fairly good friends with a freshman girl who just moved to my high school. I helped introduce her to the school and its inhabitants. She is smart, friendly, and fairly attractive and has more than once made flirtatious overtures towards me. One issue. I am a senior, albeit one who skipped a few grades She turned 15 at approximately the same time that I turned 17. She has tried to invite me to her house and requested to have me pick her up and go to church events, only to have those plans thwarted by her her caring mother who wants to protect her baby from cradle-robbing senior boys. This girl, in an effort to remedy this apprehensiveness, invited me to have dinner with her and her mother so that she could see that I wasn't a sex-crazed pedophile. Although I think that I made a good impression, I get the feeling that the age difference will continue to be an issue. Is it worthwhile to persist in my efforts to date her? Or will this relationship end unsatisfactorily? I care for this girl far more than any girl that I have met in high school.

Continue the family meals... let the parents know that you are in a higher grade due to intelligence, but are very close in social age issues...

It might take them awhile to get comfortable, but that's the price you'll have to pay. She is younger and her parents are right. They don't know you. You can still meet at events and go to their home if parent's allow. Don't get all upset about supervision. This might be a new situation for the parents, and they'll need time to think about it...

Also, are you planning to go to college next year? That brings up a lot of other issues as well.

I have applied to two different schools, and expect no difficulty in finding myself accepted. Even before I met her, though, I contemplated taking a year off to do my own thing(Get a new job, study, and continue select soccer) If my relationship with her panned out, this would give us some more time to find out if this is right.

I wouldn't change plans because of her, but also remember that even though you would not be in school during that time, she would be...

All I can say is see how it goes... you don't have to decide an entire future right away...

It's certainly possible. Try to be patient with her family. The age gap isn't huge, but it does put one of you over the age of consent while the other is under. Just spend as much time with her as possible, but try to respect guidelines they'll no doubt set such as curfews etc. If you really like the girl, you'll probably have to be patient while they get used to the idea.

I actually did not intend to cultivate a physical relationship with her. :eek: I think that her mother has placed an 8:00 boy"friends" must be out of the house . It seems reasonable enough. Her mother is divorced and has remarried, which may have instilled some protective trends in her parenting?

Nawh keep at it. Im almost 2 years older then my girl and it doesn't make a difference. Yeah the high school level might be uneasy but if you guys try hard it'll work out. Thing is that I know from experience is it gets hard when you have to go to college and your girl is still in high school. I would know.

Nope, and I see a few things wrong here, as even if the mom allowed you around her daughter, you would be gone, and leave her behind soon, and second she may be grateful for your help, but it could be a crush, as many younger females have with older guys, and the fact she is new, and dependent on your friendship, and attentions, it may not be healthy for either of you to be in a relationship. Give her a break, and let her get comfortable where she is, on her own. Stick with your own plans. The fact that you are not pursuing her, but she is pursuing you ,speaks volumes. Naw, let this one go.