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jallen181
Jan 6, 2008, 06:30 AM
I am new to this site but after reading previous questions I realize I am not alone in marriage issues. I had gastric bypass a little over a year ago. I look amazing now. I know my husband LOVES me but now he doesn't love me in the bedroom. He is a great dad, a wonderful provider for me and our family, and he is my best friend. But the fact that I am the only one that can get sex started is very stressfull. And I am concerened that it is starting to cause other problems in what was a great marriage. I have always been a sexual person since we were married. Something has changed and its not just my size.
Please help

simoneaugie
Jan 6, 2008, 07:08 AM
If you were big when your husband married you, the weight change may be affecting his libido. Talk to him. Tell him how you feel and ask him what's up.

N0help4u
Jan 6, 2008, 07:49 AM
I agree with Simeoneaugie. Some women who go from thin to fat have the same problem.
Also I have known of guys that marry heavy woman because they have an underlying insecurity issue that if they marry a thin attractive woman she will cheat.

Ask him why things have changed since you got rid of the weight and figure out what can be done by how he answers.

talaniman
Jan 6, 2008, 01:06 PM
I think you are wanting him to chase you around and appreciate the new you. Talk to him, straight up and honestly. Men are not mindreaders.

jallen181
Jan 6, 2008, 08:00 PM
Your right talaniman, I do want that... I want him to flirt with me and make me feel as pretty as I look.. thank you