My husband rarely wants to initiate sex, won't use a condom when I take antibiotics (and the pill doesn't work), and won't get excited about performing oral sex.

I'm young and fit and try to be fun, he doesn't drink much, wouldn't cheat or watch porn, so what's left? Is he having difficulty with his own weight gain? Is he just plain dumb for turning me down? I've talked to him about it and I feel as though it didn't help. :(

I think he is very, very dumb. I would get into couples counseling; also, internet research and relationship books. You are the leader, and that is probably the way it should be.

Well wait a minute...

When you talked to him about it what did he say? Try sharing his exact words as best you can.

I'll assume he is young, too.

Something is really bothering him in his head. Young men are at the peak of their sexuality. Seems like it could be any number of things bothering him from an overly religious upbringing... to... whatever. Couples counseling seems in order here as George said. Perhaps your husband has a secret that he needs to get out into the light of day.

Good Luck,

Yes assuming he is young, there has to be something wrong, sounds like a real need to talk or get counseling.

The man has issues, what more can I say. A lot of issues. Like was mentioned maybe its time he gets counseling. Between a husband and wife there should be few barriers or limits. Each should strive to make the most of the others desires within reason.